LuAnn de Lesseps’ Marriage To Tom D’Agostino On The Rocks After Fight Turns Physical!

Posted on Jul 17 2017 - 10:17am by BeachSpin

Real Housewives of New York star, Luann D’Agostino’s marriage to Tom D’Agostino Jr. has hit a rough patch!

Luann and Tom got into a physical scrap last week, with Luann supposedly slapping her businessman hubby in a posh Manhattan restaurant.

Reportedly, the former countess and her husband have broken up and reunited several times, since their flashy New Year’s Eve ceremony in Palm Beach, FL.

“It isn’t exactly a match made in heaven,” a source tells Page Six. “He hates the whole reality [TV] thing, he doesn’t want the attention or the scrutiny.”

Insiders claim that while the couple hopes to work through their issues, lots of fighting has made their first year of marriage a rocky one. Supposedly, Tom is becoming tired of the constant drama.

“There has been friction from the start. They got married so fast, they didn’t really know each other, “ the insider said, adding, “She’s a drama queen.”

Fans of the long-running Bravo hit know that Luann and Tom’s romance was a controversial one.

It was revealed on the show that Tom had dated Luann’s co-stars, Sonja Morgan and Ramona Singer — and Bravo continues to spotlight Tom’s past girlfriends. Bethenny Frankel exposed Tom kissing another woman one night before his 2016 engagement party, leaving viewers wondering if the couple would actually tie the knot. Luann labeled the tawdry episode a “stupid kiss’ and a “mistake.”

Many onlookers were surprised that the couple actually made it to the altar — do you think that their marriage will last?

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  • aemish

    I’m shell shocked by this news! Said no one ever..

  • Cassandra Dreme

    This ‘source’ seems suspiciously slanted towards Tom’s side.

    • ohjeez

      exactly…i actually think it was an ex of his or someone like sonja tbh

      • Emilia 221

        or possibly even Bethenny?

  • the underground train

    “They got married so fast”?! Didn’t they marry a year after dating?

    • Elizabeth Fisher

      Yeah… I thought they had been together a year before they got married.

  • italiano bambino

    Omg I’m not surprise

    • MidwestMiddie

      I am.

      • italiano bambino

        She rush way to fast.

        • MidwestMiddie

          Who knows regarding the timing? She had been divorced and dating for several years including having one relationship which lasted 2 + years.
          It would be nice to see at least one happy couple on this mess of a
          show. : )

      • Marsbars09

        Me too.

  • MidwestMiddie

    Say it isn’t so ……… LuAnn in less than a year went from a Mrs. to a miss. NO!
    Bravo producers and the show’s hags have to be thrilled.

    • italiano bambino

      I think everyone like to gossip but there’s a line, that they wont crossed and is happy that luann marriage turn south when two get physical . I don’t think they wish her that. I hope not.

      I retype my comment.

      • MidwestMiddie

        No Question …….. even the NYC jealous hags probably have the decency to not support any physical exchanges. Bravo producers, who knows?

        • italiano bambino

          Yeah you know bravo loves to see them down.

    • ohjeez

      meh, this is a page six report planted by what sounds like someone who doesnt like luann…two hints…calling her a drama queen and saying he doesnt like reality TV…he knew what he was in for he has known all these ladies for years….not saying it isnt true but it sounds like a plant….also in the original article it said at a mexican resto and luann posted a pic in a mex res the night of the reunion…so if it is true, perhaps something came up at the reunion???

    • motherall

      And gave up her title for nothing. Wanna bet she goes back to being “countess”?

      • MidwestMiddie

        I don’t think she can ever get the title, Countess, back.

        • Marsbars09

          I sure hope not. She doesn’t deserve it.

          • MidwestMiddie

            “She doesn’t deserve it.” Huh?
            Like her or not, I think the rules specify that once she remarried the title was gone. She knew the rules.

          • Marsbars09

            Yes.
            What I’m stating is I believe she has used the Countess title to act like she is better than other people when in fact she is human.

          • MidwestMiddie

            The only time I thought LuAnn used her title, inappropriately, was way back in Season One or Two, when she spoke rather rudely to a cab or limo driver. Other than that, I don’t think she has been nasty with it.
            When she was going through her divorce, Rude Ramona was horrible to LuAnn and to her children.
            Bones tosses around her SG Empire as if she is Queen of Wine, Drinks and Snacks. Her brand doesn’t compete with anything reputable, recognized and delicious.
            Bones plays Queen ……100% in Bitter and Bitchy mode. 24/7.
            Overall, I like LuAnn, as much as I can “like” anyone on Bravo.

          • Marsbars09

            And you’re certainly within your right to do so. I’m just posting my opinions just like everyone else.
            Have a nice day.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Agree, 100%.

    • Marsbars09

      Hi MM! You know Andy & B*tchenny are somewhere popping that cork over Lu’s misfortune.

  • ohjeez

    are lu and tom going to become the sid and nancy of the UES????is a divorce already in the works? did he cheat again????? dun, dun,dun….andy says he will be commenting about it all on wwhl tonight..

    • MidwestMiddie

      Thanks.
      I can’t stand Bravo Andy and will not watch him on TV, except at the Reunions.
      If he has any interesting info, AATT will give us the scoop.

    • Marsbars09

      Hi Jeez! As classy as Lu depicts herself to be she could be awfully ghetto. Therefore, she has no right to ever chastise other people on their manners.

      • ohjeez

        Hi Mars huh?? first we dont know what happened yet….if she did actually slap tom im sure it was for good reason and she was in a mex resto where it happened the night of the reunion so maybe she had too much tequila, maybe something came up at the reunion or maybe it didnt happen at all….but scolding luann over it doesnt interest me

        • Marsbars09

          It sure interests me because Lu has always acted like she was superior & like she was so much above the fray. I also think the “countess” title did a number on her head. But like you stated, we don’t know the REAL story.

          • ohjeez

            ya i dont see luann as acting any more haughtier and conceited then the rest of them…far less actually and she for the last 9 yrs has acted more dignified and classier than alll of them combined imo

          • Marsbars09

            Yes, the women are conceited & narcissistic in their own way, but I think Lu thought she was a cut above the fray due to her “title”.

          • ohjeez

            meh i dont see it…

          • Marsbars09

            And that’s OK. 😊

          • christy flanders

            Lu is a hypocrite. What you see on the show is a totally different Lu than when the cameras are not rolling. She acts all proper & lectures the other ladies but what Bethenny has been trying to tell everyone is true. Lu’s the biggest slut of them all.

          • MidwestMiddie

            I’d love to know how Bones quantifies Slut Level. Bone has to tie or beat Sonja for Top Prize. LOL

          • ohjeez

            oh ok christy ill take your and beth’s word for it

  • Marsbars09

    Well, Lu got what she asked for. Tom must have really done or said something highly disrespectful in order for Lu to haul off and slap the sh*t out of him at a high end establishment.
    I could see these two getting an annulment.

    • aemish

      We just learned on 90 Day Fiance through Danielle’s attorney that once consummated, annulments are off the table..

      • MidwestMiddie

        I have a friend married in the CC who celebrated her 12 year anniversary.
        She and her husband had 4 children, one set of twins. She sought an Annulment so she could remarry in the CC. After a long process and lots of $$$$$$, the Annulment was granted.
        Also, I think one of Princess Grace of Monaco’s daughters was granted an
        Annulment from the CC.

        • aemish

          Where is the CC?

          • MidwestMiddie

            Catholic Church – Rome

          • aemish

            I think religious annulments are different from legally binding court ones..

          • MidwestMiddie

            Yes, they are quite different. I never watched the 90 Day show so I didn’t know if there had been a civil or religious annulment. My friends got a civil divorce but when my GF wanted to remarry, she got the religious annulment. Costly $$$$$$.

          • aemish

            Wow…. what a racket! God will annul the marriage but make the check out to the pope? smh

          • MidwestMiddie

            — BIG TIME!

          • Karoline

            It doesn’t make sense to me either. I’m a faithful catholic, but that bothers me.

          • aemish

            My mom is Catholic too, but it pretty much ended with her in our family.. well, sometimes my sister’s kids will to church with her..

        • Karoline

          I live in N.Y. My friend had two kids , they were married 13 years. She was granted an anulment. I had to write a letter on my opinion of their marriage. It took about a year. It was granted on the grounds that it was a fraudulent union, because he was unfaithful. It was all strange to me. The Catholic church also let her get married standing on the altar, which doesn’t usually happen if you have been married before.

          • MidwestMiddie

            In my friends case, both were faithful to each other but he was accused of not fully believing in the CC Doctrines, even though he became a Catholic to marry her in the first place and their children were baptized and were being raised as Catholics. Stranger than fiction. There had to be a “reason.” Their Annulment process took almost 2 years but was finally granted. It was weird.

          • BeckyGrey

            Once she had the annulment, it meant that she hadn’t been married. It voided the marriage.

          • Karoline

            I get that.

          • BeckyGrey

            So why be surprised she was allowed to marry in the church at the alter. That’s the reason she would have attempted to get the annulment.

          • Karoline

            The Church used to be very strict on the rules of obtaining an anulment. It seems they have lightened up. It’s all strange to me. That’s all.

          • BeckyGrey

            Oh, gotcha! You almost had to give over your first born. Did you think it’s for the better or for the worse?

          • Karoline

            I’m not sure. I know the church has to ” change with the times”, but some matters shouldn’t be up for such drastic change. Its just my opinion, but I’m getting older and maybe that’s why I’m less likely to accept it. My minor in college was religion, it’s a complicated issue for sure.

        • the underground train

          The CC? Catholic church?

          • MidwestMiddie

            Yes.

      • motherall

        That’s in Ohio.

  • ohjeez

    Schadenfruede alert…

  • christy flanders

    This marriage was doomed from the start! I think he married her thinking she had money. Rumor has it that Mommy & Daddy threatened to shut him off until he grew up & got married or a real job. I think Lu was desparate to have a man, any man, & thought he had money. Word is that neither one has much money. Plus I think Lu tries to be the man in a relationship & Tommy is sick of being ordered around & accounting for his every move. My will fight a divorce tooth & nail. Can’t take the embarrassment.

    • Marsbars09

      Great commentary Christy. I knew Lu did not have much money; however, I thought Tom was loaded.

    • ohjeez

      both luann and tom are independantly wealthy…those homes you see on the TV are actually theirs…the vacations, jewels, designer clothes fine dining etc etc is all real. not sure how this can be confusing for some people

      • MidwestMiddie

        Part of her divorce settlement was the House in the Hamptons and she sold that for $8 Million. Not Bad……..

        • ohjeez

          and she has all kinds of stuff happening business wise….it makes me lol when people call tom and lu poor…im like lemme get a glance at your portfolio

          • MidwestMiddie

            According to Recorded RE sales in Sag Harbor, LuAnn paid $3.1 Million for her waterfront home.

          • ohjeez

            yes i would actually like to be as poor as luann

          • Chickpea16

            Love the view from new house. I wish……

          • ohjeez

            that house is so tranquil and beautiful

        • TartLemon

          How much of that $8M went to the bank for the mortgage?

          • MidwestMiddie

            She and her husband owned the house for almost 20 years so there may not have been a mortgage or the Count paid it off as part of her divorce settlement.
            The Count’s net worth is over $50 Million and with their long marriage and two children, LuAnn’s settlement may have been substantial.

    • TartLemon

      It’s assumed LuAnn made MILLIONS from the sale of the Hamptons pad. But, when you subtract the most likely mortgage, then that she bought another Hamptons place, there’s probably NOTHING left. Property values there are wildly inflated for the privilege. If LuAnn had any $$, WTF was she mooching off brokeass Sonja?

      • BeckyGrey

        She was just staying w Sonja as she was looking for a place in the city…now the real reason was a SL.

      • penny 2

        She sold that house as a knockdown. She stripped all the fixtures and sold them too. That sounds like she really needed money to me.

  • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

    Poor LuLu … back to Sonja’s stuffed animal shrine; I just hope she is spared having to witness Tom and Sonja’s 2:00am booty calls.

    • MidwestMiddie

      omg ………. I hope she is spared that.

      • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

        I do too … I like Lu (and Sonja), but I put nothing past her and her den of iniquity.

    • Evil Queen

      That would be awkward!
      Oh, hell, who I’m I trying too kid.
      They would have a 3-some!
      😉😀

      • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

        My motto has always been, threesomes (or more) can be hot, but NEVER with your partner. Nothing good ever comes from it.

  • Chickpea16

    I wonder if Lu divorced would she revert back to being a Countess?

    • ohjeez

      can’t but it will remain her brand name

  • shayvoe

    I gave them a year….guess I was wrong. Looks like 6 months is the magic number. Don’t feel sorry for her….she knew what she was getting and she was damned and determined to marry him anyway….so stupid!

    • Marsbars09

      ITA. Lu & Tom got exactly what they wanted.

  • TartLemon

    This display happened in a public place all their ‘upscale’ friends go. Just like the kissing production.

    What’s the difference?

    Imagine how the ‘respect’ they show one another behind closed doors when there isn’t the restraint of etiquette. LuAnn’s ain’t no prize either.

    • aemish

      And for all we know this whole thing was staged because they’re just not that interesting to talk about anymore..

      • MidwestMiddie

        That is just it —- None of them are interesting anymore.
        Bravo’s, The Real Bores of NYC.

  • Violet~Princess Pumpernickel

    The man “dated” 3 women on a reality show. I don’t buy that he doesn’t like the attention.

    • Bluefire

      But we never even saw him with the other women so exactly who is giving him this attention?

      • ALegWithWings

        Tom was on season 1. He hit on Ramona and her friends on camera.

        • MidwestMiddie

          Tom was shown for about a minute or two. He never got the long and involved “Everybody Loves Harry” story line and scenes.
          Dorinda was on the show too before she became a regular. Like Tom she was one of many at a social gathering and could was seen for a minute.

          • ALegWithWings

            Someone who doesn’t want to be on a reality show doesn’t get filmed. It’s that simple. He saw Ramona and her attractive friends AND the cameras and he liked both. I don’t care if the encounter was edited to be a minute, who knows how long he actually hung out in front of the cameras flirting? If he valued his privacy, he wouldn’t have been on the show in season 1 and he wouldn’t be on the show now.

          • MidwestMiddie

            — I wasn’t implying Tom didn’t enjoy being on the show. I was simply stating he was a party filler, not even a friend of the show, like
            Harry. I doubt anyone remembered him until he started dating LuAnn and Bravo replayed his single minute scene.
            Also even though he may have enjoyed his Bravo experience from Season One, things changed for him this time around. The women were investigating him 24/7. No guy would like that.
            Bones old BF Dennis would have hated it. Same for Carole’s “foster” child, Adam.

  • halos

    I’m sorry to hear this news and I hope that if it ends it does so soon, no martyrs, just a mistake.

    • MidwestMiddie

      Agree. If it is over be done with it and move on. However, i’m still hoping for
      at least one happy ending from this show. : )

      • halos

        me too!

  • ohjeez

    luann’s official staement to people
    “Tom and I are in love, and marriage takes work,” D’Agostino said in a statement to PEOPLE. “We are working on this together.”

    • MidwestMiddie

      Thanks for the update.

    • TartLemon

      Barf!

      • ohjeez

        hehe oh tart

    • Kimmie77

      Which pretty much means they will be headed for divorce court soon. This is all smoke and mirrors. Seen it all before.

      • ohjeez

        we shall see

        • Kimmie77

          Watching Luann on reality tv and googling articles about her, burning incense on the shrine you most likely have of her while drinking the Lu Ann Koolaid doesn’t mean you’re good buddies where you know everything there is to know about her.

          • ohjeez

            Where exactly did I say I knew anything and that we are buddies and that I have a shrine. You are just being a bitch.

          • Kimmie77

            Oh, so you don’t get sarcasm? I’ll keep that in mind….NOT! But you just said earlier in a comment that you KNOW her TV personality enough to know a certain aspect of her.

          • ohjeez

            That wasn’t sarcasm. I don’t think you are smart enough to get that. You are still just being a miserable bitch.

          • Kimmie77

            Haha…I don’t care what you call me. You can call me every name in the book — you’re the one that takes all this seriously… And yes it was sarcasm. I was mocking the fact that you’re so far up Luann’s ass that you can clean her molars.

          • ohjeez

            you are deranged kimmmiiiieeee…..if i had to hear that all day long i would be deranged too

          • Kimmie77

            I guess if you say I’m deranged then it must be so. Are you done because as soon as you resort to name-calling you’ve pretty much lost the battle and become boring.

  • Bryan

    Well you hoped for the best for them, but it was a mess going in!

  • TartLemon

    What if Tom had physically assaulted LuAnn, would that have been okay?

    • ohjeez

      i assume that would have been preferable to you….i guess you are team Tom

      • TartLemon

        Wow! I guess you are WRONG! My point was if a woman assaults the man, most applaud. If Tom had slapped LuAnn, the conversation would be to tar and feather him.

        • ohjeez

          i dont see anyone appaulding the alleged slap. i certainly havent but i have slapped a guy in my life and i have been slapped….the differences in damage done are pretty astounding.

  • jgtmom

    It will last for about as long as a New York minute. Oops, time is up

  • Evil Queen

    C’ est la vie! What happens when “..married so fast. Didn’t really know each other!”

  • ohjeez

    in other rhony news Tinsley and scott are madly in love…will there be a wedding next season?

  • Kimmie77

    If she gets divorced I don’t feel sorry at all. People tried to tell her dumb ass about this guy — but nooooo they were the bad guys for telling the truth. People are so fucking twisted. Luann is too old to be that gullible.

    • ohjeez

      the last thing i think lu wants is people feeling sorry for her..that is beth’s schtick but not luann’s

      • Bluefire

        Do you really think the OP thought Lu actually cares if anyone feels sorry for her or not and is reading her post? LOL

        • ohjeez

          i have no idea actually if she or the op care or if luann ever reads here.

      • Kimmie77

        You don’t Luann so you don’t what she wants.

        • ohjeez

          I know that her tv personality doesn’t trade on sympathy like Beth does

          • Kimmie77

            Yeah right, and that’s why she was all bent out of shape because no one thought to give her the better room simply because she was recently married. Girl bye!

            And thanks for proving how delusional some people are. They think just because they see someone on TV, they KNOW them. Pffft!

          • ohjeez

            Omg that thirty seconds of film where she didn’t even raise her voice give it a rest you are so invested in your hate and that is not just delusional but also really dark tbh. You seem like a really unhappy person with all the hate inside you

          • Kimmie77

            OMG! Oh shame on me for hating Luann. How dare I hate Luanne!
            Are you gonna cry? Don’t worry. I don’t hate Luann but sometimes the Countess pops up and makes her do and say things that are unlikeable. They all do. I don’t kiss anyone’s ass on these shows like you do.

            You don’t have to raise your voice to whinge about people you feel didn’t think enough about you to give you the best room. How pathetic was that? Like they owed her the best rooms simply because she was married…not only that but she didn’t even invite them to the wedding and yet she expected the best room. GTFOH

          • ohjeez

            Poor, poor miserable Kimmie crying all over the board about a comment made by Luann. Seems like you are obssessed to be so worked up over it. Do actually call yourself Kimmie in real life? It may explain your angry disposition

          • Kimmie77

            LOL…you’re not very good at this are you? That was so lame. I’ll give you another try, maybe you can do better.

    • TartLemon

      Like I’ve always said, ‘LuAnn ain’t no prize either.’

  • Bluefire

    I don’t think it’s a good sign if you are already have to “work” on your marriage only 6 months in.

  • wellWellwell

    Why would Lu make a scene in public after all the scandal surrounding her marriage? Who was the source..BF, does she have it on camera, did she hear an argument before the slap? Who ever the source was must have had their eyes on them all night. Not so sure I’m buying this story.

    • ohjeez

      well, the sources is def team tom lets just put it that way…calling luann a dramaqueen and claiming he didnt realize what reality tv life was like…he has known these ladies for years.i swear i wouldnt be surprised if it was sonja

      • wellWellwell

        I wouldn’t be surprised either. We know most of them have Page Six on speed dial that’s why I called out BF. She has spies everywhere. Did that person actually hear him call her a drama queen or he told them that? It doesn’t seem like Lu to put her hands on him in public after all the scandal…idk

        • ohjeez

          she will be on wwhl wed and andy already said it will be discussed

          • wellWellwell

            Good maybe she can clear this up.

          • ohjeez

            she did make a statement saying they are together and “in love” and marraige is “hard work”. i personally dont like difficult relationships that require a lot of work esp in the honeymoon phase but lu and tom seem to be a bit….passionate.

          • wellWellwell

            Oh ok, I didn’t see any statement from her but there is an ad blocking some of the story above. Well, marriage is hard work and you have to put the effort in every day, hopefully this will work out. I will watch wwhl Weds and see what she has to say about it. Thanks for the heads up.
            The ‘sources’ that surround this group always have an angle so..

    • TartLemon

      LuAnn pretty well validated the story by not denying or trying to correct it.

  • Bryan

    I hear Dirty House Morgan is already planning June wedding for her and Tom

  • ohjeez

    so now tom has made a statement to US weekly
    “There is a lot of love here,” D’Agostino tells Us Weekly exclusively of their relationship. “We want it to succeed.”
    and this
    “As for the alleged incident, a source tells Us that the public argument was a rare moment for the duo. “I think that they got caught in public in a fight and all of the sudden that turns into them fighting a lot,” says the insider. “They haven’t really been fighting that much.”

    • shayvoe

      “Haven’t been fighting that much” and “we want it to succeed”, not statements one expects to hear or usually hears from newlyweds of 6 months.

      • ohjeez

        agreed its not great news by any measure…

      • penny 2

        Storm clouds on the horizon.

    • Authentic

      I call B’S on this article.

  • Authentic

    The cheap ass Countess is having problems n her marriage? Shocker!!!
    I see Tom filling for divorce and going after Luanne’s money. I hope Tom wins. The Countless is my least favorite. #teamtom
    Come out of the Twilight Zone Lu!!!

    • TartLemon

      I’m not necessarily ‘Team Tom’, but not a fan of LuAnn AT ALL. She’s too phony for my tastes. Puts on too many airs.

    • ohjeez

      im sure they had a prenup to protect both their assets so your dream of luann becoming poor and homeless probably wont come true

  • ohjeez

    anyone notice beth got rid of one of her puppies…she just has one now that she calls biggie smallz

  • GirlPlz

    This guy seems gay and they don’t seem suited to each other. They have no chemistry. It’s forced. Luann must be desperate

  • Sasha P

    Shocked 😳….not! I guess money can’t buy you class or common sense. 😏

  • Reality Buffy

    I haven’t seen a celebrity couple so much in love since Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie.

    • ohjeez

      except lu and tom have consumated the marriage and are both heterosexual