Sippin’ Tea After Dark: Open Post

Posted on Feb 14 2017 - 7:24pm by Editor
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  • SassyMcAsspants

    *Sprinkles little Brandi Glanvilles around the room.*

    What? That’s not what they meant by Happy VD?! Ooooohhh! 😜

    Happy Snarkentine’s Day, Tea sippers!

    • Sandy Wood

      Ooooohhhh Sassy…you dinnn’t. LMAO!!!

      • SassyMcAsspants

        Oh man! Did I wreck the joint?! Here, I’ve got some Lemon/Lymez air freshner that’ll clear that funk right up! Bwhahahaha!!

        • Contessa Bel Raven

          You are so bad….but so good at it

          • SassyMcAsspants

            Teehee, thanks. :D.

            Happy Valentine’s!

          • Contessa Bel Raven

            It was a good day. Got together with a friend I don’t see much since I moved to another town. Since I am single and she was single-for-the-night we celebrated it together.

          • SassyMcAsspants

            Right on!

    • Why is this happening to us?

      Haha! Happy V Day! 😉 (Not VD)

      • Sunflower

        Happy Valentines Day as well.

        • Why is this happening to us?

          Thank you, Sunflower! 😘
          You too! Hope it was a good one! 💕💖💝💘💗💞

    • HankyPanky

      Big Clap 😉

      • Why is this happening to us?

        Not The Clap! Lol 😂😂

  • Why is this happening to us?

    Happy Valentine’s Day! Hope everyone had a great day! 💕💝💖💘

  • Why is this happening to us?

    Hey guys- I have a dilemma and need some advice…
    About 2 weeks ago, one of my best friends of 27 years had a really big fight with my brother on Facebook over politics (they fight with each other about politics all the time on there). My brother does it for entertainment purposes and thinks it’s hysterical, but my friend takes it very seriously and has actually broken up some of her other friendships over it (ridiculous)… I don’t even go on FB anymore because I’m sick of hearing and reading about it. Every time I am on the phone with her, she wants to debate about politics and I have no time for it (have way too much going on in my life right now) nor the desire to debate with her constantly. Because of this, I have only spoken to her on the phone a handful of times since the election. I’m just not in the mood to deal with her most days. Anyway, about 2 hours after I got off the phone with her from our last conversation, I received a call from another family member of mine letting me know that this “friend” was on Facebook fighting with my brother and posting personal information about him that she could only know from me! My other family member saw the entire fight on there and called me so that I would know about it. Then it dawned on me that according to the timestamp, she was posting this stuff about my brother while I was on the phone with her! She was also asking me questions about him during our conversation and at the time, I had no idea why she was asking. After I found out about the FB fight, I realized that she probably called me purposely to gain that information and then post it online because they were arguing. I’ve had a lot of personal things going on since then, so I haven’t had the time to confront her about it. She did call me once since then, but I didn’t answer and she has no idea that I know. Apparently she deleted the convo between her and my brother because the next morning I went on to see and it was gone. My question is- should I call her and confront her? Should I just ignore her? I want her to know that I’m pissed and I don’t want her to think I’m ok with what she did. She could have caused serious problems between me and my brother. Luckily, my brother didn’t seem to be bothered by it, but still….wtf? I’ve been thinking about this every day since it happened and don’t know how I should address it. Any advice would be appreciated! Sorry this is so long, but I needed to give you the details… I’m really hurt and disappointed over it and feel betrayed by someone who I considered to be one of my oldest and best friends. This election has everyone going crazy…it’s unbelievable. Smh

    • BBB1975

      I would calmly, precisely and firmly let her know her behavior is unacceptable, and if she values you as a friend she needs to understand personal attacks about yourself or your family are off limits.
      having said that….are you sure you want someone like that as a friend in the first place?

      • Why is this happening to us?

        Thanks BBB for your response! 🙂
        I am definitely going to have a talk with her. I’m so disgusted by it that I really have no desire to maintain a friendship with someone who would do something like that. Obviously I can’t trust her anymore. Since one of the foundations of close personal relationships is trust, I guess that’s out the window! I can’t be close friends with someone I don’t trust. We can be cordial, but I will never tell her anything personal again.

        • BBB1975

          Yeah…I think you are making the right choice. A true friend never wants to hurt you, or your family. I’m sorry you are going through this. Such a shame that people are taking this so far.

          • Why is this happening to us?

            You are so right about true friends. Anyone who wants to hurt you or your family certainly shouldn’t be considered a “friend.”
            Thanks for listening! You guys made me feel better about it and gave me some clarity.
            It really is a shame. I think lots of relationships are suffering these days…hope things get better.

        • SassyMcAsspants

          I’ve also noticed with some of my “friends” that they get particularly ballsy with that kind of crap when they think you’re not going to see it. I don’t have a FB, but I have friends who will give me a heads up when someone’s being shady. To me it’s sure indicator that that person duplicitous. Personally, I wouldn’t want to make strides to salvage that friendship. I’d let them know that trust was purposefully broken, trist is out the window, and that her behavior was far from okay.

          Good luck with everything, Why. That sucks a bunch. I’ve been dealing with similarly shitty “friends” lately too. It’s so frustrating!

          • Why is this happening to us?

            Isn’t it unbelievable what some people will put on social media when they think no one is looking? Well, I’m glad my other family member saw all this and alerted me- she knows I rarely go on FB and wanted me to know what went down. She read me the entire convo when she called me that night, so I know exactly what was said. Of course, the next morning it was all gone as if nothing had ever happened…smh.
            Sorry you have been dealing with shitty friends too. It really does suck, but as I get older, I realize that I don’t have time for BS. I want my life to be peaceful and don’t need people in my life who are toxic. Time to cut the cancer out! Good luck with your situation! 🙂

          • SassyMcAsspants

            Exactly! I’m not wasting my time with bullshit or opportunism from so-called friends anymore.

            Thanks, Why. And good luck with your situation as well!

      • SassyMcAsspants

        Sound advice!

    • sideof Sour Cream

      Seriously Why, you should tell her to F*ck-0ff. Don’t even bother with explaining.

      And unless you need something from her, like she owes you money or something I’d do it asap. This political BS is turning into civil war, and it’s doubtful that people that do what your friend did will ever seem reasonable to you again.
      Cut your losses, get rid of her.

      I know it’s hard, I’ve been there more times than I would like. But trust me, it’s better on the other side. Getting rid of my toxic, life-long frenemies is one of the best things I’ve ever done for my mental health.

      She’s a snake, cut her loose.

      • Why is this happening to us?

        Hi SoSc! Thanks for responding 🙂
        I think you and our other friends here are right. Cutting her off seems to be the general consensus here (my husband says so too).
        She doesn’t owe me money or anything, so as far as I’m concerned, it will be a clean break.
        Part of me wants to tell her off, but the other part of me just doesn’t want to waste my time with nonsense. I don’t think I will call her, but if she calls me, I might just pick up the phone and give her a piece of my mind!

        • sideof Sour Cream

          🙂

    • JustSayin

      Wow, what a bitch move! Personally, I’d probably just cut her off without saying anything. If she ever really pressed the issue I’d tell her, but otherwise, meh. Not worth your time or energy. Sad that she values coming out on top in a Facebook argument more than your friendship, but I guess it’s good for you to know where you stand.

      • SassyMcAsspants

        I’d go the persona non grata route, for sure, if it was someone i knew for a few years. But after a 27

        • Why is this happening to us?

          I do want her to know…I feel like if I ignore it, I’m letting her off easy…lol.

        • JustSayin

          Hi Sassy! All is going super well for me *knocks on wood*, and I’ve been around a lot more than I’ve posted…I feel like lately I’m just really over reality TV. I come here like every day out of habit and because I love the regulars…but I just can’t get into any of the topics. No offense to AATT, they’re only reporting the bs that Bravo serves.

          RHOBH has always been my fave, but I just can’t get into this season’s righteous indignation on behalf of an addict and her enabler sister. I feel like every story I read about these shows lately just leaves me feeling foolish for even knowing who these people are, and wasting my time on it.

          But I miss the snark =(

          • SassyMcAsspants

            I completely understand! I’ve missed the snark and the habit has brought me back around as well. I can’t bring myself to watch any of the shows either.

            I’m glad things are going really well for ya!

          • JustSayin

            Lol we’ll see if things continue to go well, we just out in a rental application on a house and I want it so bad. Just tired of apartments, I miss having a yard…

          • SassyMcAsspants

            Good luck! Ihear ya on the yard business. There’s no way I couldn’t have a garden, lol. And grilling yard fun.

      • Why is this happening to us?

        My husband said the same thing.
        Apparently FB arguments are more important to her than “real life” because she is getting into fights and ending friendships left and right on there…smh.
        You are right- it’s good to know where I stand and I certainly won’t make that mistake again…

    • Trippinhhard

      Girl cut this Bitch out of your life, she’s spreading information you told her..
      She’s out for blood, but don’t you dare give her anymore of your precious time or energy.. Let her think whatever she wants, but don’t talk to her again.. If she told the world about your brother, she’s really not a friend you can trust.. Cut her out of your life.. I had a similar thing happen to me after 35 years of friendship, she no longer exist to me.. Who else will she tell, what else will she betray you with.. She’s not worthy of your love or friendship..

      • Why is this happening to us?

        My husband said the exact same thing you did. He told me not to deal with her anymore and just be done with her. Her and I have had some disagreements over the years, but never anything like this. My husband says I should have cut her off years ago. He says she is crazy (she actually is…for reasons I won’t get into now lol) and that I shouldn’t waste my time with her. I could never trust her with anything ever again.
        Thanks for the advice 🙂 You always know what to do!

        • Trippinhhard

          You’re more than welcome, but if I can’t trust you, then I don’t want anything to do with that snake.. It’s your decision to make.. I do not feel nothing about the friend I kicked to the curve.. I have done so much to help her financial I could have purchased several Lexus cars.. My mother never like her at all, but treated her like one of us.. Oh and it hurt me a lot. I knew this too shall pass and when I do see her, I speak and keep it moving..you will make it thru this, just know that ppl are put in your lives for a reason, a season or longer.. She showed her true friendship and she’s definitely not worthy of your time,,

          • Why is this happening to us?

            I feel the same way about trust. That’s really big for me because I’ve been betrayed in the past by boyfriends and friends and I don’t trust too many people as it is. I have a small circle of friends who I do actually trust and she was one of them…boy was I fooled! She showed her true colors for sure. I just don’t have the time for drama. As I get older, I’m trying to live my life as drama free as possible!

            I know you must have been really hurt about your situation. You are a very good friend to help someone out financially and it’s a shame that it wasn’t appreciated. Also, the fact that your family was so welcoming makes it even worse. I guess these are the things we learn from in life…gotta just keep it moving and stay positive!

            How are things with your man? Still going strong?

          • Trippinhhard

            Long story short, he stopped and saw us dancing thru window.. He was angry and he thinks we have unfinished business with each other.. It’s like I said from the start and anyone, that ask, that I will always love him, he’s my first everything… Can you hit me up at my gmail using my name…(((())))

          • Why is this happening to us?

            Sent you a msg! 🙂

    • KT

      Hi Why! Didn’t see this until now I’m so sorry. This is besides the point, but what happened to you is a very good example of the negative consequences of social media. It gives people this false sense of protection or anonymity to say things that they wouldn’t normally say in person. They don’t think and they don’t filter themselves.

      I was going to say that I think your last two sentences above starting with I’m really hurt….would be the perfect thing to say to her. But it really depends on how you feel now. It’s been a couple of weeks and if you still feel like you can’t be friends anymore after 27 years then I think the question is what do YOU need in all this? Do you feel like you’re just done and don’t want to see or hear from her anymore? Or do you want to tell her WHY you can’t be friends with her and let her know how hurtful it was and how angry you were about what she did? Or do you want to tell her she crossed a line but still try to come to some sort of understanding or middle ground without throwing the friendship entirely away? Do you want to sit down with her face to face or maybe just write to her? I think at this point the question is what do YOU need now. Because, if she’s not stupid (and it doesn’t sound like she is) then she’s got to know that she f”*cked up. The fact that she took it off of FB right away probably means she knows she made a mistake. That’s probably why she called you too. But the fact that she didn’t leave a message or attempt to explain or apologize to you means she either doesn’t care or doesn’t want to deal with the consequences of her actions. Probably the latter. That’s why I think you gotta ask yourself what do YOU need now. Because if you’re looking for something from her, you might not get it.

      I’m glad your brother is an easy going guy. I have a brother that I love very much and I wouldn’t want a friend to come between us and I sure wouldn’t let a friend bad mouth him. The mother bear in me would come out.

      Again, I’m really sorry Why. You’re a great sister.

      • Why is this happening to us?

        Thank you, KT! I’m not exactly sure what it is that I want right now. My feelings toward it range from being really angry at her to being really sad that someone I’ve known for so long and trusted and would betray me like that. I’m not really looking for anything from her, and to tell you the truth, I don’t even want to have a conversation with her about it, but I do want her to know that what she did is unacceptable, so it really leaves me no choice. Going forward I don’t see our relationship ever being the same after this.
        My brother and I don’t always agree on things (we used to fight like crazy when we were little!), but he is still my brother no matter what, and blood is thicker than water. She needs to understand that even if I don’t agree with his views, he will always be my brother and that’s where my allegiance lies.

        • KT

          Had to smile……sounds like you and I have the same brother 🙂

          I think you’re smart to take your time and sort out how you feel about what to do next.

          You are always so generous when I (and others) on here need support or a kind word and I hate to see you in this crappy situation. Sending love and cyber hugs. Let us know what happens.

          • Why is this happening to us?

            Aww thank you so much! That’s really sweet. ☺️
            There is a nice group of people here (mostly lol).
            Thanks again for your advice and I will keep you guys posted! 🙂

    • Sunflower

      On a different note:…
      You are now an excellent candidate to join RHOBH.
      Your storyline is going to be fascinating… and intriguing!!
      FACEBOOK GATE…
      Will YOU OWN UP TO IT that you told your friend some personal stuff about your brother…?
      Please avoid repeating the same to Rinna and Eden… while vacationing on your Yacht in PUNTA GORDA!!
      Also… make sure you don’t show your drawers to Pee-K.
      I am rooting for you…
      XOXO

      • Why is this happening to us?

        Haha…I could certainly have my own show with everything that has gone on and goes on in my life! …and there is enough fresh material to not have to beat a dead horse for 6 episodes…lol.
        The only problem is that I don’t live in a mansion or own a yacht…maybe I need to start hanging out at Beautique or the bar at The Regency Hotel! 🤔 Lol. I hear there are some rich men hanging around over there…
        Thank you, Sunny! Xoxo

        • Sunflower

          I am soo glad you found some humor in my post.
          We can all go for “the kill”… but sometimes it is good to think things over, before reacting harshly!
          Your good friend might have a CRUSH on your brother because they have something strongly in common, which is politics.
          Oy Vey….
          I am also deeply involved in politics – community board member – and more of that good/bad stuff, and got a lot of my friends involved as well.
          Giving back in life, being involved, charities, are part of my forte!!
          However, I do not live a life solely consumed by politics or every conversation intertwined with politics.
          This election has been a trying one… and the results are devastating.
          However, I believe that as a people we will rise up to conquer this new challenge.
          Your brother seems like a gem… totally unbothered.
          As for you… lesson learned…
          As for your friend…. tell her to take a hike…!!

          • Why is this happening to us?

            You’re right- it’s good to take time and think things over before reacting.
            I don’t think she has a crush on him- lol- I think she hates him! Anyway, they are both married and have kids, so I doubt they would ever get together. Lol.
            I will tell her to take a hike when I’m ready. 🙂