Luann de Lesseps Hints To Quitting ‘RHONY’ After Explosive Fiancé Cheating Scandal

Posted on Aug 26 2016 - 10:38am by Terri L. Austin

Luann de Lesseps Hints To Quitting 'RHONY' After Explosive Fiancé Cheating Scandal

Luann de Lesseps is standing by her man. No matter what. On the Real Housewives of New York, the girls’ trip screeched to a halt when Bethenny Frankel finally told Luann that Tom was seen tongue-wrestling another woman. So, what’s a Countess to do?

“If you can’t forgive someone you love, then who can you forgive?”

Naturally, Luann blames Bethenny.

“I was very hurt when Bethenny shared with me, after showing the other girls, the photo of Tom at the Regency. It took me some time to pull myself together after the initial shock. My gut reaction was to think about how this looked to my friends and family, and it wasn’t until I had time to think that I began to understand what I was feeling.”

Um…betrayal and humiliation? I think we can all agree Bethenny behaved badly — in fact, I’d say she got off being the center of attention which was disgusting. However, do you really think Luann would have handled things differently if Bethenny had told her in private? This is the same woman who accepted an open marriage in order to keep her Count. Luann and reality don’t always see eye to eye.

“After I found out about what Tom had done, I had to dig deep within myself to find the love to forgive, but I did. I forgave him shortly after reuniting back in New York. Was it easy? No way. Am I glad I did? Absolutely.”

Their current status?

“We are still engaged and are finalizing our New Year’s Eve wedding plans. He’s a good man and we love each other. We will stand the test of time regardless of what those women try to do to ruin our happiness.”

I don’t think the women are the ones she needs to blame. It’s easy to shoot the messenger — especially in this case because Bethenny made this situation worse — but Tom is the one who cheated. Still, Luann is marching forward with her plans.

“I’m optimistic about my future, and I know that regardless of what happens in life, Tom and I will always love each other. So if you take anything away from this season, it’s not the problems that arise in our relationships, it’s how we deal with them when they arise that defines us.”

So, what’s your take? Should Luann have forgiven Tom? Should she be angry with Bethenny for the message, the delivery, or both?

 

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  • ohjeez

    lu is out 🙁 I’m convinced….her leaving the finale party early said it all….the blog is just confirmation….but the good news is i will have zero temptation to watch next season without her…

  • SurfDoggie

    Wow. Nothing like kicking a woman when she’s down.

    Luann explained that she did not want an open marriage with her husband. However, they had two children together. That is called staying together for the children. Not everyone’s choice, but not a choice to be ashamed of.

    Then she had a betrayal by her fiance. Completely sucks, but she chose to forgive. Totally valid choice. Not my relationship, so no judgment from me.

    As to that vicious, screeching harpie, no, Luann should not be angry at her. Luann should (and is) noticing a woman with a personality disorder and wisely making a decision to stay away. If she stays on the show, she has valuable information. If she leaves, she can cut off all contact. In either case, Luann wins.

    The difference between the “crimes” of Tom and Bethenny are that Tom’s indiscretion was thoughtless and selfish. He apologized and is making amends.

    Bethenny’s “crimes” are ongoing, vicious, and premeditated. There is no apology and there is no reprieve.

    There is a world of difference between the two.

    • Cdw789

      I beg to differ. I think she has every right to be angry at Bethenny. Bethenny’s fake tears and consoling herself with a bottle of carefully placed Skinnygirl showed what a fake she really is. Make sure I get my Skinnygirl shit in the shot since this will be the most watched episode of the season.

      • SurfDoggie

        I agree with you wholeheartedly that Luann has every RIGHT to be angry with Bethenny. I just don’t think Bethenny is important enough to waste anger or thought on.

        She’s just a garden variety Cluster B.

        Best to move on as soon as possible. If you notice, everyone in her life has.

        • SassyMcAsspants

          “Best to move on as soon as possible. If you notice, everyone in her life has.”

          Oh dayum! And true story! Well stated, SD.

    • MidwestMiddie

      Like some others, I’m with you except for Luann not being angry at Bones.

      • SurfDoggie

        I get it MM. It’s just that that feeds into Bethenny’s disorder.

        Bethenny feeds on drama, anger, and hurt.

        Best to calmly and quietly back away.

        • MidwestMiddie

          Good Point except Bravo turned Luann’s situation into a
          Free For All involving the entire cast with Bones
          as the Inhuman Gang Leader. There was no way Luann
          could have quietly walked away.
          Just watching all of the insincere comments and antics must
          have hurt Luann a great deal. Those nasty women really showed
          just how ugly they are. None of those uglies will ever find
          a man to marry them. Men hate women with ugly nasty personalities…….well unless that’s exactly the kind of person they are.

          • SurfDoggie

            This is also true.

            I have to say that I’m shocked that Bethenny not only has a boyfriend, but has one that left his wife and kids for her.

            I just don’t understand what any man could see in her (not being nasty, just being honest).

          • MidwestMiddie

            Did you see the Reunion preview where Bones cell phone rings
            and it is her boyfriend’s daughter calling her while the show is
            taping. Pathetic!!

          • SurfDoggie

            No! What happened? That’s just odd.

          • MidwestMiddie

            The Preview Clip is here at AATT. Check it out. I’m pretty sure I
            heard Bone’s comment correctly. I’m not even sure if Andy asked
            her about the phone or simply gave her a questioning look
            and she responded. Nothing happened ……since it is only a
            preview, a teaser, but I wonder if the other women said anything. Hmmmm : )

  • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

    I always giggle at the mere thought of any HW voluntarily walking away from their respective shows. In the 11 yr. history of the series, (despite their claims) I believe Bethenny is the only one who left on their own (and even she came crawling back). NeNe came close, but then returned at the end (presumably to save her own ass). Lu ain’t going anywhere. This show is in her blood, and besides that … she’s probably the biggest attn. ho’ of the bunch.

    • ohjeez

      i think you are wrong on this one…i would be willing to bet on it….the only way i think she would stay is if beth was gone and that’s not gonnna happen…also beth is without question the biggest attn ho of the bunch….

      • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

        Hmm …Bethenny is a VERY close second, but I think Lu (despite her phony outrage), relished every moment of her and Tomcat being conjectured about.

        • ohjeez

          i think in the beginning like ANY bride she was enjoying it but once it became clear that the vultures were going to rip it apart it was no longer enjoyable….

        • MidwestMiddie

          “…….close second……” roflmao
          Bones is at the top of the heap. I do think the only part Luann might have “relished” was how it gave the other women the opportunity to
          showcase on film their jealousy, insecurity and hag-like bitchiness.
          The Real Zero Class Bitches Showed UP!

          • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

            Pick yourself off the floor honey … Luann you must admit Luann is a major attn. ho.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Compared to whom? No one has denied Luann enjoys the spotlight
            but she is so far from the top on that score.
            They all are climbers —Hag Turtle Time, Bar Fly Sonja, Dorinda Drink UP, Carole the Non- Cook Cookbook Author, Jules Showtime Divorce and at the top of the heap covered with flies — Bones Frankelstein.

      • Perturbed

        Yup, B only left because she had a spinoff about her marriage & baby. And she’s SUCH an attention whore she went on “Skating w/the Stars” while taping her own reality show! Jason begged her not to do too much, but 1 show is ever enough for B. As soon as her talk show was cancelled she came crawling back to Andy. Why? She has more $$ than she can ever spend, and supposedly a full-time business career. Because she MUST BE THE CENTER OF ATTENTION AT ALL TIMES, that’s why. Watch out Brynn!

        • ohjeez

          yep…there is no other bigger fame / attention ho than beth….that’s why i cant stand watching her either…she sucks the oxygen right out of the room and replaces it with tear gas

          • Perturbed

            Just wait until Brynn is a teenager/young woman and starts commanding more attention than her witch of a mother! B won’t be able to stand it!

          • ohjeez

            that relationship could go either way..

          • SassyMcAsspants

            I foresee (at best) a relationship similar to Icky’s and Brianna’s, with Barfenny trying to make every event in her daughter’s life about her. It’ll be her daughter’s Sweet Sixteen, her daughter’s wedding, her grandbabies, ad nauseum.

          • Elizabeth Fisher

            You’re not kidding… she sucks the oxygen out of my living room when I’m watching her.

    • sideof Sour Cream

      Yes. The attention from this season means guaranteed paid appearances and perks until filming starts again. It also means Bravo will definitely want her back. That’s gotta be hard to resist if you’re the type of person who is comfortable with fame.

      • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

        Yup, Lu ain’t no dummy.

    • LuvsSnark

      I thought that Heather decided to walk away from NY cuz she thought it no longer was good for her business.

      • AnEnigmaWrappedIn$nark

        Yeah that was the ‘spin’ … *eye roll

  • Perturbed

    Love you Terri but I must disagree on the “open marriage” allegation. To my recollection, that description was NEVER given by LuAnn – it was a rumor started by Bethenny or Ramona. Just like the accusation she had “sex with a married man”. She admitted to kissing a guy in St. Bart’s who turned out to be married; Ramona’s “date” was the one who spent the night. As usual though, when loudmouth gossips like B & R keep repeating these lies over & over, the viewers start to believe them. I don’t blame Lu for leaving if she does – I don’t know how she weathered this season!

    • Winnie McGoogin

      Then you missed the two times this season Lu admitted to an open marriage. Just last episode actually.

      • Perturbed

        I know that it ended up that way the last few years, but she said it wasn’t her choice. B & R propagated the idea that Lu & her husband were swingers during their entire marriage.

        • Winnie McGoogin

          Perhaps because they spent 12 years having an open marriage in Europe before any of these ladies knew them. It’s easy enough to lie about what happened before. Lu cheated on her rich bf in Italy with the count. Just up and left. It’s in her blood.

  • wellWellwell

    I disagree with ‘Lu staying in the marriage to keep her Count’ she has two children with him.
    I know that is not a good reason but you would be surprised how many women and men stay in an open marriage for the children or financial reasons. I say this because a poster yesterday explained the same situation. Not so much she loved the husband but she did her kids. Sigh!

    • ohjeez

      i think she thought she would be with alex for the rest of her life….

      • wellWellwell

        So do I if she didn’t she would have left along time ago why wait until your older if that was the case. I think she just resided to the fact and thought he might change so she stayed for the kids..idk

        • ohjeez

          well she said the first 12 yrs were good it really stared when they moved back to the states….so she tried to do it for four years and prob would have stayed for even longer if alex hadn’t fallen in love with someone else….

          • wellWellwell

            Right because he was traveling without her a lot and she was in NY with the kids and they attend school so one parent would have to be there. So he was traveling spreading his sunshine across Europe.

          • ohjeez

            basically….remember when ramona was screeching at mario on the tennis courts and lu said,”if i spoke to the count like that he would be on vacation permanently”…..

          • wellWellwell

            Yes I remember that, little did Ramona know. Ugh! she tried every way she could to compare her situation with Lu’s and it’s nothing like that.

          • MidwestMiddie

            IMO, Mario left Ramona because she was/is a mean and
            nasty person. She always makes it sound like Mario had a mid-life crisis. No, he had had enough of her bitchiness.

          • LuvsSnark

            He definitely was a douche for not walking away from the marriage first before he started playing the field, but I don’t blame him for wanting to get away from Ramoaner. If she’s half as rude, self-absorbed and obnoxious in real life as she is on the show, it would have taken a saint to remain married to her.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Agree ……he should have walked away from Ramona before taking up with anyone else. My guess is he didn’t because of their daughter. No excuse but w/o a doubt, Rude Ramona doesn’t get to play the victim card either.

          • SharmagneW

            Mario stayed as long as he did for his daughter. Otherwise, he would have left Ramona sooner because of her nastiness.

          • MBB14

            I remember because it it seemed odd to not call him Alex.
            She’s really gotten a lot of mileage out of that count/countess stuff.

    • Perturbed

      When my parents separated, we kids (I’m the youngest of 5) literally BEGGED them to reunite. They did eventually, but in retrospect I can see now they weren’t really happy. They did it for us!

      • wellWellwell

        Yesterday was an eye opener for me there were so many posters with the same or similar situation. My initial thought was kick him to the curb, why did Lu put up with the Count but after reading so many comments why people do this, I look at it differently now.

    • Mental Iceberg 🏇

      I know a couple who have been together now for 20-22 years? They are very, very well off and stay together only for the finances (they own a business) in an open marriage.

      The rules are: Discretion, the other person does not want to know, no bringing the other person back to their house (they vacation separately).

      • wellWellwell

        Lots of people these days do just that. It’s not for me but on the other hand I might have to because of financial reasons or at least for awhile.

  • MidwestMiddie

    How would Luann have handled the situation if Bones had told her privately isn’t a
    valid question. The fact is — Bones is a horrible person and a hypocrite for doing what she
    did to Luann and Tom……on film, in public, for Bravo.
    Tom and Luann can work out their problems for themselves. We don’t need to know
    what they said to each other.
    Most of the other women were insincere voicing their “concerns” for Luann. It was
    a Bravo Bitch Fest —–and Disgusting!
    Regarding the Open Marriage – let’s put it to rest. Luann explained the situation she had
    to deal with regarding her marriage to the Count and the welfare of their children.
    I mean look at how Bones Frankelstein handled her divorce. Sheesh! Bones
    spoke out about Jason while he remained quiet. She blasted him and someday their
    daughter will read or hear her hateful words. Bones used her divorce to play
    a Victim Card when in fact her daughter and Jason were her victims.

    • Perturbed

      Brava Midwest!

    • Trippinhhard

      Well stated .. 5 stars 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎

    • BriannaG

      ITA on all points. Perfectly said. Tom isn’t innocent, but it’s up to him him and Lu to work it out, no one else. They are adults.
      It’s disgusting that Bones kept claiming that she is a “friend” while sharing all the information to the whole crew first and giggling about it behinds Lu’s back and then telling Lu in front of the camera. Bones is vile, lying and manipulative. I don’t see anything positive about her character at all…

  • ohjeez

    let’s lighten the mood with Lee

    Lee Radziwill ‏@RadziwillLee Aug 24
    Ramona and Sonja keep saying they don’t want a man like Tom for Luann.
    Yet they go on and on about wanting him for themselves. #RHONY

    Lee Radziwill ‏@RadziwillLee Aug 24
    So Tom kissed a girl? We all had trysts in my day. It’s “European”. #RHONY

    Lee Radziwill ‏@RadziwillLee Aug 24
    Does Bethenny get a paycut from Bravo for failing to ruin Luann’s happiness? #RHONY

    • MidwestMiddie

      LOL

    • 📉 Snarky in Hoboken📈

      Love me some Lee!

      & before anyone comes running to ask…

      You do know that’s a parody account don’t you?l?? 🙄

      😉

      • ohjeez

        lol i mean are we still having to mention that??? why diid we ever have to mention that?????

      • Perturbed

        Love that guy! 🙂

      • PCpolice

        Yes. He/she often communicates with a Donn Gunvalson parody account. I don’t know if it’s the same person, but it’s funny at times.

    • SassyMcAsspants

      Teehee, that account is always good times. I forget about it sometimes, thanks for the reminder! 😀

  • Bravoparolees

    ANYONE WHO CALLS OUT FRANKELSTEIN IS AOK IN MY BOOK! GO COUNTESS GO, be happy! The rest of the moronic, desperate cast, F you!!!!

    • PCpolice

      Yes!

  • RAW

    Now the show will perfectly portray Bethenny’s white trash, satanic world view. No thanks!

  • Mental Iceberg 🏇

    OH ha ha I copied this from another place, it was posted last night and is perfection!

    “I saw Luann one day last fall on my lunch break. She was turning the corner at Lex and 62nd; I was walking across the street with my little salad. I started BAWLING amidst the crowd of tourists looking for the park and other lonely UES salad eaters. I scared everyone around me, except for Luann. I cry/yelled LUANN OH MY GOD I CAN’T BELIEVE IT’S YOU!! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH (I never do this. She is the only person in the world who can get this reaction out of me.) She literally did a twirl with one hand raised and said, “thaaanks darling” and floated away. I came back to my office with tears still streaming down my face. Everyone understood.”

    Adorable, or what?

    • MidwestMiddie

      Certainly not my way of noticing celebrities but I can appreciate this person’s
      sincerity and joyfulness. Luann certainly brightened her day. All Good!

  • RAW

    Bethenny “quit ranting. We know who’s really doing the planting.”
    Ramona “You’re mad as a hatter, take your medicine.”
    Dorinda “You’re in worse shape than the national debt is in”
    Sonja “..sitting there useless as two shits…”
    Carole “Sit down you fat motherfu##er!”
    Purloined fron cabinet battle no. one and the last time I do this.

  • Greg

    I hope Luann quits. She was at her best when she was at ‘friend’ status and since has become obnoxious all over again.

    • greebo

      I don’t think so at all. These past 3 seasons she has become a fan favorite.

      • PCpolice

        Agreed

  • Kissme

    Luann is an idiot!

  • JustSayin

    I hope Bethenny pays her interns well 😅

    • ohjeez

      they have been in full force in social media

  • MBB14

    I find it so odd that she is more concerned about the way she was told (rightly so) that what in fact actually happened.
    It’s so out of proportion!

    • ohjeez

      one act was premeditated and intentional the other was not

      • BeckyGrey

        Which was which.

        • ohjeez

          tom went out ,got drunk and did something really stupid which he has apologized profusely for….beth meticulously planned her betrayal and gloated about it beforehand and continues to attack/blame lu to this day….she does this horrible thing to lu, ambush style on camera in order to crush and humiliate her and totally believes that Lu not only deserved it but almost forced beth to do it…..i can’t imagine doing that to someone ever., even an enemy…it boggles my mind that people are rationalizing it….i guess people have a real taste for blood these days

          • Kimmie77

            Sorry but kissing someone is premeditated. That’s just another excuse.

          • ohjeez

            when you’re totally shitface which beth even agrees was the case…nope

          • Kimmie77

            More excuses. And unlike your penchant for everything Lu says must be true, I don’t agree with everything Beth says. There is no excuse for putting yourself in that situation. If he was an upstanding guy, he would have gone to Lu immediately and told her that he was so drunk that he made out with another woman and begged her forgiveness. Instead he tried to cover it up and pass the blame instead of owning it.

            It would have been less humiliating for Lu to find out through others.

          • BeckyGrey

            Maybe people don’t see it the same as you and it has nothing to do with a taste for blood. Maybe they think of it as a production and drama driven show that documents the reactions of those production and drama driven events. I’m not rationalizing Bethenny part in it nor am I excusing Tom’s act which lead to this. If LuAnn wants to marry this guy that is her business, but now she is well informed.

          • ohjeez

            bottom line…it was cruel…maybe i am naive but actually believe that you becky whoever you are are probably more like me than beth and i dont think you could ever do that to someone….it’s just not the kind of thing i am interested in watching/supporting…beth is just too mean for my taste

          • BeckyGrey

            OhJeez I am just like you. I have been put in the position where someone who sullen my name and I had enough info to make her life a living hell, but I didn’t. I’m not build for it and I wasn’t put on this earth to hurt people. Hurt people hurt people. Bethenny is a Hurt person. But I would not focus on the massager or the motive behind it, I would focus on the message. If all it takes is an argument and drinking to have my fiancee engage in a make out session with a former lover or a new bunny, then I would have bigger fish to fry than Bethenny!

          • Bryan

            She is, she tried to hide her contempt for mankind in faux concern!

          • greebo

            I think people watching saw someone who because of her rancid behavior all season seemed totally the person in charge who decided to hire a PI and then called and pretended to be someone she wasn’t all in order to hurt and humiliate the person she was after all season. This did not seem producer driven. If some viewers were fine with Bethenny’s behavior, I think they are a tiny minority. I can’t think of another housewife anywhere, well maybe Tre that would try and destroy another woman like that. She crossed a line imo.

  • PCpolice

    Bethenny’s one giant product placement. I just watched the last episode again only to see her red and white products everywhere. Anything from vodka bottles conveniently placed on tables throughout her hotel room, to utensils inside of her red and white home. another liquor bottle on her kitchen counter. It’s a joke. It’s robbing Bravo of any amount of credibility that they’re sorely in need of. Obviously they’re being paid for this very valuable advertising to an international audience. In her finale party, her skinny little girl logo and more products including more liquor, is all over the place. It’s so obnoxious, it’s an insult to viewers intelligence. Perhaps that’s an oxymoron, lol. I’ll still watch though, lol

    • LuvsSnark

      It was totally obnoxious . . . seeing all that SG crap in almost every scene this season.

  • LuvsSnark

    There’s no accounting for taste, is there? In the first place, I wouldn’t have gotten involved with a known player, and in the second, I wouldn’t have put up with this tonsil hockey shite and shoved his ring down his throat. I’m assuming Lu knows what she’s getting into, and if it falls apart, she has no one to blame but herself. That said, if he really makes her happy, it’s her life and who am I to judge?

  • 📉 Snarky in Hoboken📈

    My crystal ball tells me that Gumby will find herself in some sort of health crisis (again) in the near future. It’ll be mysterious (vague) & she’ll be symptomatic….dizzy exhausted dehydrated etc.

    She already got the ball rolling on Twitter saying that it’s hard traveling when you don’t feel well…

    Gumby has been in Mykonos for the last few days without a bikini shot (#shocking)…posting pics like she’s in the hotel room most of the time.

    She’s way off her page. The renioun was brutal for her & that certainly is something new for her. Lu is talking about the situation & one of Gumby’s commandments is thou shalt not talk about her to the press. She’s in a situation where someone is pushing back & not taking her stit. The other person is never supposed to put the olive branch down…& never push back.

    Her only move is to be in some sort of crisis where stans are concerned about her & that other person (Lu) is supposed to “soften” the stance.

    That’s my prediction. 🔮 Get the prayer circle ready. 🙄

    • delaney

      Hopefully, for Bryn’s sake, the health crisis will be a long term stay in a psychiatric institution.

    • Bryan

      Lyme Disease, caught from Lyme Yo when she joins the show

  • ohjeez

    the best line of lu’s blog in my opinion was sadly left out of the article…it’s the last sentence
    “So love without fear and forgive without regrets.”

    • Bryan

      That’s a good one.

  • CB

    I can see easily why Lu would forgive him.. i bet bravo/bethenny “team” had an agenda.. probably to follow Tom… bethenny calling the bar tenders??? i mean really???? she joined in to “get” Luanne and i think Luanne is not saying everything she knows behind the scenes. If i knew someone was intentionally out to hurt me like Bethenny has been gunning for her all season, i’d probably do the same thing and protect the relationship no matter how i felt. BUT you have to remember Luanne did cheat on her last boyfriend with the “johnny depp” look alike. So she knows what its like to ask for forgiveness.. she’s been in “tom’s shoes” not that this is honorable on either parts, but wanting forgiveness, which her ex did eventually give her, was something she desperately wanted so you can see why she’d not let a kiss destroy her relationship.

    • Apple

      I agree. I also think this smells like a set up. I thought I heard Bethenny say during one of her badly acted babbling sessions while sharing the details (why?) that she knew the woman…or her friend did. None of this makes sense to me. Why would this friend not just sell these pics to a tabloid? And why would the bartenders talk about it to a stranger over the phone? I also think its possible Tom has additional information about all this and was hoping Dorinda would help them get it on camera. I wish she had given him the opportunity to tell his side of it.

  • Bryan

    Very smart D’lu, she isn’t going anywhere but may be offered a really really big amount of money to come back, so we can all see what happens next!!! LOL

    • greebo

      I’m trying to imagine what next season would be like. Bethenny, Carole and Ramona actively loathe Lu, will we just get another season of screeching and calling her vile names and trying not to film with her?

      Though if they film at Tom’s penthouse and Lu throws a party and they are contract bound to attend, that would be amazing.

      • Bryan

        without them at the party its bound to be more fun anyway with Dirty House and Dorinda