‘RHOBH’ Meet Erika Girardi’s Ex Husband & Son [Photos]

Posted on Mar 16 2016 - 1:01pm by BeachSpin

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Erika Girardi spilled some personal information on Heather McDonald’s podcast, Juicy Scoop, that have fans of The Real Housewife of Beverly Hills raising their eyebrows.

Erika quietly revealed that she made the choice to leave her three-year-old son in New York, to pursue a career in Los Angeles. She worked as a cocktail waitress, then assumed the role of a hotshot lawyer’s wife — not exactly the glitzy career of her dreams. She pursued and married an older man with a fat wallet, who years later, began funding her dream career. Her three-year-old boy would have been in his teens, before his mother found quasi-fame. So what’s the deal with her ex-husband — the one who apparently became mother and father to her child?

READ: Shocking! Erika Girardi Abandoned 3-Year Old To Seek Life of A Gold Digger In L.A.

According to, O!HitSErika‘s ex-husband’s name is, Thomas Zizzo, and Erika’s maiden name is Chahoy

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Thomas Zizzo is evidently a Renaissance man, who lists himself as investor, creator, and original owner of a male stripper business called Hunk Mansion according to his LinkedIn profile. It appears that Zizzo is running some sort of male strip club, which also coordinates male strip packages for women and couples. Zizzo expanded his business around 2010, and moved the NYC operation to Las Vegas, where he now resides. He briefly owned a Las Vegas bail bonds company, from October of 2011-October 2012. He also lists himself as a marketing specialist, and an investor/consultant in a fur business, called Juliana Furs.

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Interestingly, Erika Jayne is splattered all over the company website, and Erika wears the furs in her videos. 

Erika’s son’s name is Tommy Zizzo, he is 23-years old, and a L.A.P.D. police officer. He moved from Jersey City, NJ, to Los Angeles, in 2014.

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Tom Girardi  allowed Erika the means to build a career in her way, and on her terms. It appears that the Girardi bank account has had a ripple effect. Erika Chahoy has come a long way, from a disenchanted young mom, to strutting her weave before adoring audiences of gay men.

Thomas Zizzo is likely jumping on the Erika Jayne train, and cashing in on his ex-wife’s bankrolled career. Zizzo allegedly raised their son on his own — maybe Erika believes that she owes him that much. Thanks, Mr. Girardi.

 

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  • Ann_RS

    I feel so sorry for the son who is being exposed like this. Both parents have really chosen scummy paths and he couldn’t choose his parents. I know he is an adult now, but how sad that people will tie him to the scummy path his mom has chosen as she parades it all over the net. She abandoned him and didn’t leave him with much better. Talk about growing up in a cesspool. Very sad, and I hope he has been able to rise above it all and live differently in his personal life.

    • Why is this happening to us?

      I agree. I think it’s sad too. Jersey City isn’t a nice place to grow up while mom is living the fab life in Pasadena.

      • Ann_RS

        I hope he had other people around him to give him good values and morals, so he can have a successful relationship and family on his own.

        • Why is this happening to us?

          I hope so too. It sounds like he is doing well if he is in the LA police department. At least he has a more respectable career than either one of his parents and he got to where he is today on his own merits. I hope he succeeds in having better relationships with his own family than the hand that he was dealt.

          • Ann_RS

            I do too. When we mess up, we really make it so hard on our kids.

    • chacha1

      And then Erika had the nerve to say she was sooooo glad to have a son, that no way did she want a daughter …. seems it shouldn’t have mattered to her since all she did was give birth and gold dig

    • MidwestMiddie

      WOW!
      We don’t know him. He may love his parents and be proud of them.

      • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

        I don’t know about proud MM, but there’s certainly no reason to think he doesn’t love them. I have different expectations, but it doesn’t seem like Jayne grew up in the lap of luxury and she seems to consider herself a success, which in itself is very telling. Anyway, my point is that her path is not for me or many of us. We can’t pick our parents, you know?

        Doesn’t seem either parent has broken the law. But, clearly Jayne wanted something more out of life than what this man could provide. Not my type of people, and I really can’t stand the woman on this show, but we all weren’t made for office work! I see where you’re coming from. 😀

      • MarcoPolo

        No one doubts that he loves her. My family structure allows me to talk to many adolescent boys, as well as young adult men. I have not met ONE who would be proud to call Erika Jayne their mother. He may be proud of her as a human being, but VERY few young men would be cool with their mother patting her goods for hoards of panting men–gay or straight. However, the detached nature of their relationship could be a game changer–who knows. Guys are protective of their mothers, and most would deck any guy who looked at their mom sideways.

        • MidwestMiddie

          Huh?
          I have no idea what you’re talking about? Are you a professionally
          educated person who works with adolescent boys? If so
          in what capacity?
          What does your ” family structure” have to do with you influencing
          adolescent boys and young adult men?

          • MarcoPolo

            Good grief, NO ONE said I influenced anyone. I just have guys that age parading through my house and I talk to them…simple as that. Just personal insight…that’s all.

          • JustSayin

            Looks like someone didn’t read your post…
            >.>
            <.<
            Lmao sorry, Middie, I just had to since you just suggested I didn't read YOUR post =P

          • MarcoPolo

            IKR…smh.

          • JustSayin

            Lol all teasing aside, I’m sure she just honestly misread your post. It happens to the best of us =)

          • MidwestMiddie

            Okay …..but if you’re talking to these youths you are influencing
            them. It is inevitable.
            I’d still like to know and understand what your “family structure”
            is that you have young people there. Your phraseology invites
            questions…….

          • MarcoPolo

            Your phraseology is argumentative and annoying. My family structure is private, and it honestly doesn’t take a rocket scientist to guess a family structure that would have young men hanging around. I am done with this exchange.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Good!!
            I still have no idea what kind of “family structure” has “adolescent boys and young adult men hanging around.”
            I, also, appreciate your desire to keep things private.

      • Mimi

        In that same vein, he may be horrifically embarrassed by them, too. As you say, we do not know him.

        • MidwestMiddie

          Absolutely correct. : )

      • Weeds1

        I wouldn’t want my Mom to be on RH….unless she was LVP because she’s fabulous and classy whatever she does!

        • MidwestMiddie

          Spot-On!!

    • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

      Hey Ann! The way his mother mentions him, it seems he may be okay with it. Doesn’t seem like he’s trying to hide. She said she never made much of this before, so it seems that once she signed up for the show she had to let family know that things in her past might come out. I certainly wouldn’t be one to look at the kid differently because of what his parents are. Looks like he’s decided to commit himself to public service in a different and very meaningful way and that’s admirable. If anyone knows how that woman is its her son. What she did and didn’t do for him as well. At this point he might be proud his mother is a c**ny MILF! 😳🙄😜

      • Ann_RS

        I only hope that he has better values in his personal life than either of his parents. Yes, it is wonderful that he is serving his community. God bless him for that, but he has been raised in a scummy environment, has two parents who value gutter behavior and have disgusting values about sex, and will do anything for a buck. I hope that he found another path and has a good moral compass and is equipped to have a healthy, loving relationship. Kids always suffer when we, as parents make a mess of our lives. I really do feel badly for the son.

  • Why is this happening to us?

    Wow…this is interesting…
    The son looks just like his mother. What an embarrassment she must be to him.

    • Aleggra

      Why? Because she dances? She’s not doing drugs or is in prison. I’m kinds curious as to why she gave him up? Her now husband didn’t want him? Or she felt his father was a better parent? I also wonder if she saw him while he was growing up?

      • Mimi

        I dunno. It might be kind of embarrassing to have your gold diggin’ mom patting’ the puss with her ever present crowd of gay dancers by her side. Maybe not, since he is a cop and surely visits those seedy night clubs on a routine basis.

        • sideof Sour Cream

          Just being a RH is embarrassing at this point!

          • Mimi

            So true!

      • Why is this happening to us?

        The dancing has nothing to do with it….the fact that she ran off to be a gold digging whore and left her son behind does.

        • I agree..and just her manipulative, conceited, back stabbing, mean spirited refusal to accept any responsibility for her thoughtless remarks way that she has developed as a cast member . It’s not the stripping. Just my opinion…I know that if I were living her life, my kids would be mortified.

          • Why is this happening to us?

            I am not a mother, but I would never leave my kid for a man. EVER.
            I’m glad her son turned out to be a responsible adult. It sounds like whoever raised him did a good job. Some kids just turn out to be more responsible than their parents because they don’t want that lifestyle for themselves.
            I happened to watch a few of her videos the other day and if you listen to the words of the songs, along with the raunchiness in the video, it really reveals a lot about her. I think Erika Jayne is the real Erika. Erika Girardi is the act.

      • ItsTurtleTime

        It says it in the article – she wanted to chase fame so moved to LA. I suppose having a baby wasn’t a se*y look for her.

  • annamaria10

    Bail bonds, male stripper business, NJ and now Vegas? The only thing missing here is gambling and loansharking. He sounds like some kind of guy.

    • MidwestMiddie

      What’s wrong with being in Bail Bonds?
      What’s wrong with stripping?
      Neither profession means the people involved are criminals?
      How many teachers, scout leaders, religious leaders, politicians
      and others have been arrested for actual crimes? Quite a few ………

      • annamaria10

        Well, here in NJ, if you are involved with bail bonds and run a male stripping business, you have mob connections. That’s not a good environment for your child.

        • MidwestMiddie

          I missed the part where it stated the child’s playpen was in
          the Strip Club. : /
          BTW – the Bail Bonds Business was in Las Vegas and not in New
          Jersey. Not sure if that makes a difference but …………….. : )

          • annamaria10

            Love your posts, but I disagree with you on this issue. Peace.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Back at ya, annamaria. : )

        • Aleggra

          I don’t know much about NJ, but why are bail bondsmen in the mob? All of them?

          • annamaria10

            Not at all. You are requested to be squeaky clean to be in the business.

      • JustSayin

        What’s wrong with stripping? – aw, Middie, it makes me sad that you just asked that =(

        • MidwestMiddie

          Why?
          Puritanical Americans like to hide much of what they enjoy and I
          find hypocrisy to be much more disgusting than someone
          freely choosing to become a Professional Stripper. While this
          isn’t my life choice, it isn’t criminal.

          With all of the headlines detailing society’s real criminals
          and creeps, I’m not willing to condemn someone who is doing
          a job and not breaking the law.

          • JustSayin

            So, if you had a daughter and she wanted to become a stripper, you’d be all for it? And you’d like and approve of the guy who is making money off of her taking off her clothes, and probably supplying her with coke to get her hooked so she needs to keep stripping to pay for her habit?

            Different strokes for different folks, I guess.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Whoa?
            Did you bother to read what I posted?
            Guess Not!!!!!!

          • JustSayin

            I did, and I responded…I enjoy your posts and respect you enough as a regular to read your posts before I reply. I don’t understand what about my questions made you think I didn’t read it…but we can just drop the subject if it’s going to cause some kinda problem.

          • MidwestMiddie

            “While this isn’t my life choice, it isn’t criminal.”

            Somehow from that you assume I might be approve of my
            daughter becoming a stripper and be involved in drugs? smh

          • JustSayin

            Your life choice is not the same as your child’s, which is why I asked. So my takeaway from your posts is that you see no problem with stripping, as long as it’s not someone you care about. Which suggests to me that you see EXACTLY what is wrong with stripping.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Huh? What the heck?
            Who kidnapped “JustSayin?”

          • JustSayin

            Lol I’m just sayin, you ask “what’s wrong with stripping?” but then you say you would not be okay with your daughter being a stripper, so, to me, that says you know damn well what’s wrong with stripping 😉

            But I really don’t want to be at odds with you, Middie, certainly not over something as silly as hypothetical strippers lol. I apologize if I’ve offended you or if any of my posts came across as rude, because I swear that was not my intention.

          • Weeds1

            Or, she would like her daughter to get a degree from Wharton so her daughter can make money and take care of herself. The point is, there are evil people in all walks of life and being a stripper is just a profession. Not all are druggies and lots of respectable business types are 🙁 Sad but true.

          • Aleggra

            I understand your point, Mid. Stripping is not illegal. Of course I wouldn’t want my daughter stripping. But that’s not here nor there. It is not illegal. Period.

          • MidwestMiddie

            Exactly.
            : )

          • Aleggra

            She kidnapped herself 😀

          • Contessa Bel Raven

            Not all exotic dancers are on drugs. Is that a career choice I’d want my kids to make…no. If my children were exotic dancers would I still love and support them…..definitely.

          • JustSayin

            Not all strippers are on drugs – while I know statistically that’s true, all of the ones I have known personally, were/are. It seems to be a well known “fact” (as much as you can call “word on the street” fact) that, if you’re looking to score some coke, find the nearest strip club.

          • Contessa Bel Raven

            Most of the dancers I have known have not been. I guess who you know/your experiences do colour how you view certain things ☺

          • JustSayin

            Very true.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            I knew one stripper in college. She was on coke. I wouldn’t say she was addicted, but she sort of “needed” it to work. Cocaine raises confidence and lowers inhibitions, it’s the perfect drug for sex workers.

          • JustSayin

            That is EXACTLY how this guy who owned a strip club got a sister of a friend hooked! At first he just brought her around, let her see all the money the other girls were making, but of course no pressure on her. Then he started suggesting she could make as much money or more, since her body was so bangin. Then it was, oh just do a little line and it’ll give you the confidence you need, blah blah blah. Last I heard, she’s in a very bad way.

            Now I’m not saying she is innocent and blameless, she made her choices. But she had just turned 18, fresh out of high school, and I think she was easy prey for that scumbag.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            Strip club owners are no better than pimps imo.
            About a year into it, when my friend was truly hooked on the money, her manager started berating her to lose weight, get fake boobs, etc. And this girl was gorgeous.
            I had always been pretty open minded about stripping before I met this girl. But her descriptions of what goes on in the private “champagne” rooms of these clubs changed my opinion of it.

          • SassyMcAsspants

            Having known quite a few folks that worked as strippers (both men and women) there are many types of people that work in that industry, as in any other. But the two major categories are: 1) Those who are working toward a goal (college, buying a house, etc). They go to work and do not bring their work home. They achieve said goals and get outta dodge without getting sucked into the bullshit. And 2) The “lifestyler” – They are the ones who are into the attention, the ratchet, and more often, the drugs. They bring home work with them and stay in the industry even after they are relegated to the dreaded morning/afternoon shift.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            I really hope your first scenario applied to my friend. She was serious about school, but started to get a little dark there for awhile. Once I graduated I lost track of her.
            But seeing how much money she made was eye-opening, and she wasn’t even at one of the bigger clubs. She suggested I do it as well, as I was struggling. But even when I was 20 I was nervous to wear a bikini in public, let alone prance around on stage half naked, LOL!

          • sideof Sour Cream

            The whole strip club scene is so awful. What is wrong with men that they pay to sit on what we used to call “sniffer’s row” ARGH! They sit there in front of friends and strangers getting all horny for some poor girl who more than likely has nothing but contempt for them.
            I just don’t get it– they have no pride.

          • JustSayin

            What I REALLY don’t get or like is the way the times they are a changing and now it’s like stripping and going to strip clubs is no biggie. It used to be a dirty secret that you were ashamed of, now it’s something to be proud of and it’s sad and disgusting the message it sends to young women. Don’t want to work hard? Well you don’t have to! Just sell your body, it’s the only thing of value you have to offer anyways.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            I blame Kim Kardashian and the whole “sex tape” craze. Suddenly, hedonistic exhibitionism became chic, and porn became mainstream.
            And when you factor in it’s also a stepping stone to prostitution I just don’t see the “fun” in it at all. My friend (oops, edit: see below) went down a dark path while stripping. She started collecting snakes, got hyper-sexual. It was ugly.

          • JustSayin

            You make an excellent point about the rise of the “sex tape” – at first it was a cause of embarrassment and shame, and it somehow morphed into being a jumping off point for a becoming a career ho.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            The first one I remember was Pam & Tommy Lee. And whether it was an act or not, she sure seemed mortified. & of course I can understand making the best of it once it’s out there, at least making the profits from it. But KK by all accounts released hers on purpose. And then came Paris HIlton, and since then it’s become cliche.
            & I’m sorry but porn is NOT an honest way to make a living. It’s degrading, sleazy and disgusting.

          • JustSayin

            Didn’t Paris’ tape come first? And yeah, Pam and Tommy Lee are exactly who I was thinking of, I’ve never watched it, but I’ve seen whatever brief clips were safe to air, and it is quite clear it is a private home video they never intended to be seen by the public. Fast forward to now, where we have bitches like Farah filming “sex tapes” on sets with known porn stars and trying to pretend it was a private tape that leaked. Ugh, the world we live in.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            I looked it up, Paris’ tape went viral in 2004, Pam’s came out in 1998. I remember at the time we watched it in a hotel room–I’m pretty sure our computer at the time couldn’t play videos, not enough power. Their tape is definitely not something I could see Pam wanting to release. It’s lots of extreme close-ups of her genitals. yikes.
            Later I actually bought Kim Kardashian’s and Paris Hilton’s tape as a joke gift for my sister. We watched them and Paris’ by far seems the most on purpose, meant for public viewing. Kims is more like a porn with scenes of her on a plane, at a hotel, in a pool. I think they are funny actually. Kim lies on the bed getting poked from behind and moaning like a sick cow. It’s sort of hysterical.

            But yeah, these days wannabes aren’t even pretending to be embarrassed about this crap. & I’m no prude but jesus people, if you’re not going to have any respect for yourselves, at least think for a second what your parents or children are going to go through because of your smutty behavior.

          • JustSayin

            Oh, I meant didn’t Paris’ tape come first between her and Kim. Pam and Tommy were definitely “pioneers” lol.

            I’m no prude either, but getting famous from a sex tape just seems…sad and disgusting, to be honest. But is the fame ho the sad and disgusting one, or is it the society that decides these bitches have value? I dunno…

          • sideof Sour Cream

            agreed. At least Pam was already famous.

            I think people are fascinated by this type of person who would do ANYTHING for fame. It’s what continues to draw viewers to the RH series imo. It always amazes me that people want to be known and followed and photographed by strangers when I’ve spent my life trying to avoid making a spectacle of myself and I know the vast majority of people have as well.
            Some types of crazy are interesting, is my only explanation as to why these talentless sluts continue to get attention.

          • Weeds1

            And Prostitution if regulated is a foolish thing to outlaw.

        • Weeds1

          Why? It is an art form at it’s best.

      • Aleggra

        Yep. How many politicians and banks have ripped us off?

        • MidwestMiddie

          Crooks wearing suits, uniforms and respectable garb far outnumber
          strippers and bail bondsmen. : )

      • Weeds1

        Heard on the news today that a teacher was arrested because she let one of her students go to the bathroom unattended. I’m guessing the kids were K or 1st grade. She was more than 2x the legal limit and had 2 DUI’s…The Duggar’s are another “righteous” family…NOT!

        • MidwestMiddie

          Agree ……..

    • For me,it’s the fur business that reflects on his heartless character. Just my opinion

  • annamaria10

    I hope that grandma raised him….not either of these parents.

    • MidwestMiddie

      Erika’s son’s father may be a great guy who happens to be in the Entertainment Business. : )
      Truly ……he could have been a great dad to his son and, imo, Beach hasn’t
      printed anything to say he wasn’t.

      • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

        He deals with some of the more sordid elements of society it seems-reminds me of my buddy who defended going to strip clubs by saying the “girls” we’re paying their way through law school 😂

        Hey it’s possible and also possible that this father kept his son away from all that. He probably had some help from family.

        LOL and Jayne says she learned manners from her parents. I’ve been chuckling at that since she said it.

      • annamaria10

        Maybe he is an OK guy, but I doubt a great guy with that career choice.

        • MidwestMiddie

          Really?
          “Clothes Don’t Make The Man!!” It is true. Dig deeper …….
          However ………………
          Too bad he didn’t become a celebrity spokesperson for a
          well-known corporate Sandwich Business.
          Or a RC Priest or Born Again Preacher ………so many
          career choices where people are guaranteed to be “great” people.

          • Weeds1

            Did you hear that Fogle was beaten up in the prison yard? Shocked that he’d be in general population. Usually these pervs have to be housed separately because of the hatred for child molesters.

          • MidwestMiddie

            I read about that ……….
            No Tears!!

        • Contessa Bel Raven

          There are many in the adult entertainment business that are great parents. The two are not mutually exclusive.

          • I think it’s his fur business,not the strippers that reflect poorly on his character.

  • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

    It’s all making sense now.

  • twifan2

    I find it interesting that there is no record(s) of Tom & Erika’s marriage? :/
    There are for Tom’s 2 other marriages bfore Erika.

    • chacha1

      Twifan I could not find anything on Tom Girardi, does he have children? If so, I bet they are pissed that Daddy Warbucks is blowing all his money on this slug

      • twifan2

        I thought Erika said something about Tom’s children ‘welcoming’ her to the family?
        I’ve only read that Tom may have one son.

        • chacha1

          thanks, I couldn’t find anything on Google when I searched Tommy Girardi

          • twifan2

            This may be this ‘son’-Vincent Girardi , 27yrs

          • chacha1

            idk, I looked and it seems he does not exist, how you found anything on Tom Girardi puzzles me since I also looked but I am so limited in my search using Google only

          • twifan2

            X-reference chacha.
            Go to the link in the story above-O!HitS. 🙂

          • chacha1

            thanks 🙂

          • twifan2

            When you go there, click on Thomas Girardi in the story. 🙂

          • Jennymckitty

            He has a son that works in his firm.

        • Aleggra

          In the movie, he was married & had 2 children. But that’s the movie. Who knows?

          • Mimi

            Tom Girardi is not featured in Erin Brokovich. That attorney is Ed Masry, played by Albert Finney.

          • Aleggra

            So he’s not that attorney? All of this time I thought that was him! I have no idea where I got that idea. Thanks for telling me.

          • Mimi

            You’re welcome. Lots of people seem to be confused about it. Girardi is with a large law firm that Ed Masrey partnered with when the case became too big for his small firm to handle. The kind-hearted Ed Masrey passed away about ten years ago.

      • Aleggra

        Why? He’s the one that made it. Someone said a son works in his law firm. His kids would be adults now.

        • sideof Sour Cream

          Because it would lesson their inheritance.

      • You know it. They must be protected legally from losing their share. I’m still tripping on that post about the possibility miss c**ty and her ex connived together when she left to pair up with money bags. Does having a police officer son offer her any power over the lawyer?? I’m not savvy on that

    • TheBeverlyHillsHaveEyes

      Me too. And very interesting that she went back and forth between 1999 and 2000 in her interview.

      • Aleggra

        I wonder if she sees her son? Did she say? He moved out here. Why? He must see her. She sounds very proud of him. We don’t know if she visited him in NY. She must have. He could’ve gone anywhere but he came to L.A. where she lives. Strange.

    • TheBeverlyHillsHaveEyes

      In fact the only thing I have seen about Erika and Tom G is blog about the suing their HOA when they were burgled twice. They lost the case. Along with a $1 million pair of diamond earrings that were kept in a jar in the bathroom…like you do.

      • Jennymckitty

        Saw that and the tax lien…both in her maiden name.

      • SassyMcAsspants

        LMAO@ like ya do! *Hurriedly checks all her jars of diamond earrings left in the bathroom* Shit! Someone stole them all … oh, wait.

  • chacha1

    Despite the fact that she did not raise this young man he sure turned out to be someone to be proud of ….. it takes a lot of smarts to become a police officer today, you cannot even apply anymore without certain required degrees …… it sure wasn’t like the old days when my father was a cop …. you could just say the word to your Alderman in your precinct and a friend or family member got hired in Chicago

    • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

      I wonder if he was in the military before this? I’m so confused. Daddy strop club owner and bail bondsmen, mother a c**nty mess. Mother is not nearly as convincing as the demure attorneys wife as she is onstage. Looks way more comfortable patting her moneymaker.

      I hope this young man is one of the good cops. God knows the LAPD doesn’t have the best image.

      • chacha1

        I see what you mean ….. I bet one of the grandmas raised him and then he came looking for his mother and took classes for law enforcement ,,,,,,,

        • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

          The guy I knew who was in the LAPD was from the East Coast. He was a college grad and Marine. He ended up stationed in CA and I guess applied for law enforcement after that. This move to CA may not have anything to do with his mother. I need more details chacha! LOL!

          • chacha1

            what you are saying is correct, I remember we had a Navy guy apply for a firefighter/paramedic position for our fire department and had all the requirements to apply from the classes he took in the Navy …..

        • Jennymckitty

          Nope, military college.

      • I wonder if Tom pulled any strings to get her son a job. They seemed pretty chummy with the chief of police when they ran into him over lunch that time.

        • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

          romo, that is such a good point! I never thought of that. Very interesting!

      • Jennymckitty

        He was a Jersey City PAL explorer…affiliated with the police. He attended Valley Forge Military Academy and College in PA.

      • Yeah,I was thinking the same thing. No reason to think he’s not a pillar of society except for genetic coding. The plot does thicken . You guys are great at finding …

    • BigBrothersMother

      My daughter’s friend has his masters in something for law enforcement. He’s a State Trooper.

      • chacha1

        Yes, and the fire department requires an applicant to have a Firefighter II certificate and paramedic license before applying ….. in Chicago they work the ambulance first and then cross over to firefighter after a few years …..

        • Weeds1

          Florida too.

    • sideof Sour Cream

      My cousin needed a college degree just to become a prison guard.

      • SassyMcAsspants

        The university I graduated from has a very large Criminology department. I know a lot of those kids did studies and internships involving prisons.

  • Jersey

    Raised his son on his own? Where the hell was she?

    • chacha1

      Patting her Puss and digging for gold in LA…. she pulled a Anna Nicole Smith but with better results …..

      • sideof Sour Cream

        lol @ “patting her puss” hahahaha!

  • JustSayin

    Maybe it’s the cynic in me, but I wouldn’t put it passed them to have planned this. Like yeah, you go hook a big fat sugar daddy while I watch the kid, then when you have the money we’ll both reap the benefits. Didn’t some guy come out of the woodwork saying that’s what Gretchen was doing with the old guy (minus the involvement of a kid)?

    • chacha1

      I would believe it especially with Erika Girardi and her gold digging friend Yolanda now giving her instructions on how to fake being sick if there is a pre-nup with Tommy

      • twifan2

        BUT are they legally married tho?! :/

        • chacha1

          ahhhh the plot thickens

        • Jennymckitty

          I don’t think anyone has turned up a marriage certificate . Chahoy must be her legal name still. That was what was on the lawsuit she and Tom filed against their homeowners association . It’s also on the tax lien…it was paid off.

          • Aleggra

            Maybe they got married in Vegas? Or NY? Or Hawaii or Mexico? Do we look state by state?

          • Jennymckitty

            Depends on the search site.

        • Wow..another good twist. This just keeps getting better. Why wouldn’t they just live together. He probably didn’t need to marry her to get her to be his live in arm candy recipient of all those perks..she should have had his baby, but he strikes means the type who would have nipped that .

    • Marsbars09

      Hi JS! If that was the plan it sure backfired on EJ’s ex because she apparently left him and their son in the dust after she hooked Tom G.

      • JustSayin

        Hey Mars! The article says her ex uses her pics on his website and she models furs for him, so apparently they’re still on good terms of some sort.

    • chacha1

      Could be that Tommy Girardi paid for an expensive military school or private school ….. and I remember her telling one of the other women that she was soooooo happy to have a son, no way did she want a daughter and she said it like it would have been the worse thing to ever happen to her having a daughter

      • JustSayin

        Lol it would have been, because then she’d have to deal with a mini version of herself and she knows how horrible that would have been.

        • chacha1

          I hope he marries one just like her and has 5 daughters ….. Erika is the Ice Queen and she would have been an abusive mother to a daughter, eyes like a shark

      • TheBeverlyHillsHaveEyes

        A daughter would be harder to leave behind with no mother I guess.

    • Alwaysalady

      These are my thoughts exactly. You don’t have to be a criminal to live a sleazy life. Some people get away with a lot of questionable activities but never get caught. I know she is at work when she is with Tom. It is a role. Her real personality is the trollop she portrays when performing. Tom Girardi is in charge though as we can plainly see.

    • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

      Photoglou?

    • Wow…now that’s a twist I never saw…makes you wanna go hmmmmmm

  • Marsbars09

    It appears EJ’s ex did a remarkable job raising Tommy on his own. The kid leads a respectable career as a police officer. Speaking of….I wonder what Tommy thinks of his mama’s career? I wonder if the two have a relationship?

    • twifan2

      Apparently he’s only been on the force for maybe 2 yrs.
      I’d like to know what type of background/education, military he has.

      • Aleggra

        He’s LAPD. That’s a hard job, no matter what part of L.A.

  • TheBeverlyHillsHaveEyes

    Erika needed to leave her son and husband to go and chase her dream…but then gives up the dream to play the good little wife to the rich lawyer. I wonder what changed her mind…

    • BAM! Nailed the gold digger in her tracks!

      • Aleggra

        Who’s to say she didn’t fall for the guy while waiting on him? I doubt she knew his bank account while pouring his coffee. I doubt he told her what he did until he knew her better. These rich guys aren’t forthcoming with their income to women they’re dating, much less a waitress. And there are plenty of not so rich lawyers like he once was. Of course, someone might’ve told her who he was if they knew. He was no Shapiro or we’ll- known lawyer except in lawyer circles. Even then, he’s no public figure. I’ve never seen his photo or knew his name. I knew about Brokenvich (sp) because of the movie. But didn’t know his name. In any case, they seem okay together except for him being so controlling. No wonder I didn’t marry rich. I can’t stand controlling men.

        • ohjeez

          apparently he was really well known around the place she worked….i think she even admitted she knew what he did and that he was sort of a big shot at the place she worked

          • sideof Sour Cream

            Of course she knew. Successful attorneys are selling themselves 24/7. They want EVERYBODY to know who they are, it’s just good business.

          • ohjeez

            yes and i believe she stated as much…

          • Aleggra

            True. I didn’t think of that.

          • Kellygirl

            No. I have one and he is very low key.

          • Aleggra

            Yes. Plus, she went after him, giving him her number. But the guy is no fool. He probably made her pay some rent until they were married. Some rich guys are like that.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            LOL, now why would she agree to that?

          • Aleggra

            For the later pay off or to earn his trust. Maybe she really liked his power & what it could bring in the end.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            Well then she’s a bigger fool then she lets on.
            I’ll eat my hat if she ever gave him a dime. She earns her keep in other ways.

          • Aleggra

            I don’t know if she paid rent. But he seems the type to ask for it, testing her.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            No he wouldn’t. As an attorney he knows that if she pays rent she has some legal claim to where she lives. He’d have to evict her instead of just kicking her out, and in CA that could take years. They have some really unfair tenant laws out there–in favor of the tenant.
            If she’s just a house guest he can easily have her removed by the cops.

            Not to mention, money is power, and he NEEDS all the power, if she contributes financially at all she becomes a little more equal. He would not be comfortable with that. Just not worth the $500 a month.

            My guess would be if anything, she didn’t move in with him until she had that ring. She made him chase her, and he probably enjoyed that.

          • Aleggra

            There’s another article on allaboutthetea called “Shocking! Erika Girardi Abandoned Her 3- year old son…” where she says they lived together for a year before marriage. In CA, unless you’re legal companions, you can rent a room or live with someone & if you own the house you can kick them out. It takes time but people live together all the time. I don’t think she would’ve stayed if he kicked her out. And remember, the guy is a lawyer so he knows the laws. I actually doubt he made her pay rent but he’s the type that would do that. She probably paid 1/2 of utilities & her phone bill. LOL. I know a married couple that split everything, even the house payments & they’re married. Yes, married. Wait. I know another couple that also does this. They aren’t married, though but have been together 10 yrs. L.A. is weird.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            Half the utilities on that house is more than she makes in a year! The landscape bill alone would break her.

            Yes, it’s the “it takes time” part in evicting someone that he wouldn’t risk. And a lawyer would be especially cautious, because they see every day that people are so often not what they appear. And yes, I remember he would know the laws, I brought it up that he would know the laws and so would never have an actual “tenant”. It would never be worth it to him.

            I think she either had a proposal, a huge ass ring, or both, before she moved in. She doesn’t strike me as the type of girl who would give it away.

          • Jennymckitty

            Exactly.

          • I have to respectfully agree with Aleggra here. He knows the laws, but having attained the big shot status, he can tell himself she’s not completely a heartless gold digger if he can reassure himself by reminding himself that she ponied up for something…rent, bills, dinners whatever. I like reading your thoughts too though,side.

            women with money who like arm candy do the same thing to make themselves feel more desirable..get the arm candy to pay here and there while providing him with cars, watches,etc. it’s classic.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            It’s all conjecture anyway, so agree with anything you want, respectfully of course. 🙂

          • Aleggra

            It was only a year. He could’ve charged her $200 a month or less just to test her. I’m just guessing. He seems the type.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            Yeah, I just don’t see it. He doesn’t seem the type to charge a girlfriend rent at all to me. He seems quite old fashioned and like the type of guy who believes the man pays the bills, period.

          • I agree..no doubt at all that he knows why she’s with him, but getting her to give up some of that reason she’s with him…to give up some of that money gives him a little reason to tell himself…she’s not just after my money. She respects me. It’s a mind game. His life is being a big shot. When his family or friends or anyone dares to tell him she’s a gold digger, he can tell them and himself…well she did pay her way, so it’s not just my money.

          • ohjeez

            lol i think the cash flow goes one way in that relationship

        • sideof Sour Cream

          When I was waiting tables the rich guys were VERY forthcoming about their status. They wanted us to know, and lots of them wanted us to know because they wanted to “date” a cute young thing.

          • Aleggra

            Just date? In L.A. there are so many cute young things they just hop from one to another. I’m not sure if she got lucky or if she’s cursed. The guy is extremely controlling. I wouldn’t care if he was a Rockefeller. I’ll bet he has her on a very short leash. That never would’ve worked for me plus I never liked older men. My second hubby is only a year older.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            No actually not date at all, hence the quotes. What I really meant was fuck. 😀

          • Aleggra

            LOL…that’s what I figured 😀

        • TheBeverlyHillsHaveEyes

          You should listen to the podcast. It’s enlightening. She said he was a big deal in the restaurant, everyone knew him and she thinks he may have been an investor in the place. He ate there with his kids and his law partners. He didn’t need to be well known, just have plenty of money.

          • Aleggra

            I read another article on them. Seems she gave him her phone number at the restraurant. But from what I’ve seen of this man (on TV), he’s very controlling and no sucker. I don’t think this is the type of guy that is easily duped. Remember Erika said on their trip w/Yo that she isn’t allowed to buy jewelry? He has to approve it. Yikes. He and I would not get along! I don’t like controlling men. She’s probably on an allowance & God help her if she goes over that allowance!

          • Ann_RS

            I don’t think he is controlling. I think he speaks his mind, had certain things he will tolerate and things he wont, and she toes the line, pretends to be something she isn’t so she wont lose her meal ticket. She plans to outlive him and get his money.

          • Aleggra

            Doesn’t he have children? As his wife, she gets 50% of everything if he dies w/out a will, which I doubt.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            He’s an attorney for chrissakes, there’s not a snowball’s chance in hell he doesn’t have a will.

          • Ann_RS

            Yes, he was married before. I think twice, and I think he has kids. As an atty, he would def have a will. He is worth many millions and continues to make mega millions. They probably have a pre-nup, and also whatever he had before he married her isn’t community property, and he had made his multi-millions before he married her. PG&E paid thru the nose for the people they knowingly poisoned, and when they sued and won, the pay-out to the victims and to the attys was a huge fortune. Mega-millions. That guy is no fool, and he knows why she is there.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            He’s old school. When I was growing up lots of dads and grandpas were like him–they just demanded a certain amount of respect and decorum from EVERYONE.
            But who knows what goes on behind closed doors?

          • Ann_RS

            ITA.

          • Aleggra

            I’d be afraid to ask.

          • sideof Sour Cream

            LOL, me too Aleggra!

          • Kellygirl

            Three men you never want to marry: drs. Politicians and attorneys. High stress careers and wife’s take the brunt of it. Not controlling, I agree. No nonsense? Yup!

          • Aleggra

            Ann, that guy is controlling. I can spot them a mile away. He’s already shushed Erika twice in front of her friends. A man that doesn’t let you talk is controlling. The fact that she can’t buy her own jewelry w/out his approval is controlling. He makes Jesus Jugs’ (don’t remember her name) husband look tame & remember what he was like on the OC? This guy rules Erika. And she lets him. She says she’s used to him but I think she doesn’t want to lose a good thing. I’d say he’s the exact opposite of Ken who follows LVP around like a puppy. Tom blazes the trail & yells at Erika to keep up. I can’t respect her for that. But it’s her life. She’s gotta live w/him, not me. I’m not even sure I could have a conversation with a man like that. Ugh.

          • Ann_RS

            I respectfully disagree. He is not necessarily, and I too know about controllers. We are talking about his on camera time. That guy is very sharp, knows how perception can be everything. I don’t think he is willing to be seen on camera beyond a certain way, since it can impact him professionally. I would lay odds that he has been very clear to Erika what he is willing to be part of and what he isn’t. She can do her own thing, but when he is involved, he isn’t going to go along with certain things. He is smart enough to know how many of the husbands have ended up looking like buffoons once they went on camera. He cant ask for a break when they are filming scenes to privately talk to Erika, so he just shuts her down. Frankly, I am glad he does. She is not a nice person at all. Very wicked to others. She needs a shut-down and then some. I hope Bravo fires her, along with Eileen and Yo. I am disgusted with Lisa R, but I think if she is afraid for her job if the others get fired, she will blow with the wind of whomever she films with. She isn’t to be trusted and is a sell-out.

            Nice to talk with you!

          • Katee

            What about the other RHOBH, the cheating, closeted husband, gambling addictions, physical and mental abuse, yet they all stay. I think out of all of these women, Erika has it pretty good if she has to shush every once in a while.

          • Aleggra

            Exactly, Katee, when Tom told Erika to go to her room, I could tell he was kidding. They ended the night walking away, arm in arm towards I assume, their room. They seem to get each other and no one can take their 20 yrs of marriage away. Look at Yolanda’s creepy husband. She gets sick and he can’t handle it. They lasted 4 yrs. He must think he’s a real catch. He isn’t. He’s lucky he had her at all. Not too many women will drop their lives to treat him like a king. Especially young women who don’t like being second best, no matter how much money he has.

          • ItsTurtleTime

            Eh…women like Erika would….for MONEY! The irony!

          • Aleggra

            Bev hills, whose podcast is Erika on?

          • SassyMcAsspants

            Aleggra: Heather McDonald’s “Juicy Scoop”. There’s a link to the podcast on yesterday’s AATT article about Erika.

          • Aleggra

            Thanks, Sassy. Going there right now 😀

          • SassyMcAsspants

            NP 🙂

          • Aleggra

            Sassy, from what I heard Erika say on the podcast, she met Tom (who was one of the lawyers in the Brockovich case, just not the one shown in the movie), she was 27-28 when she met Tom who was in his 60’s! Wow. Huge age difference at that age. She can be his daughter. As for her child, she’s very slippery about that. I didn’t hear her say she left him when young, only that he was in boarding school later on. She implies having a good relationship w/him. She never came out & said, “I left him with his father” unless she said it later. I fell asleep towards the end 🙁 it was almost midnight here lol

        • ItsTurtleTime

          She knew him through her waitressing for a year before they got together. Of course she knew.

        • ItsTurtleTime

          She knew him from the restaurant for a year before dating him. Do you actually think there’s any chance she didn’t know he was rich and just fancied his wrinkly old face instead? Come on, you can’t be that deluded. Besides, clearly she was never going to make it as a singer so she did the next option….went back to her son and took care of him. OH NO, SORRY, SHE DIDN’T! She married an old walnut for money.

        • Kellygirl

          Hey girlie!!! Hey hey hey!! So we meet again!! Loves it!!

        • SusanT

          Trust me she knew and its highly doubtful she was attracted to an old wrinkly man with a scary grimmace and a weird manner. She saw dollar signs…..

    • Aleggra

      Probably living in L.A. It’s expensive as all get out & there are a dozen young women getting off trains & buses daily looking for Sugar Daddies & fame. L.A is a difficult town to live in w/little money.

      • Mimi

        You can live in LA without a lot of cash, but it is going to be hard to find time to become a “star” if you have no talent. Erika is not in the ranks of great performers. I noticed her act seems quite similar to shows in Las Vegas, such as The Pussycat Dolls. This article is enlightening. I wonder how much influence does her ex husband have over her career? How much of this does grandhusband know about?

        • Aleggra

          Mimi, Tom did work on the PG&E Case w/Masssey. He just wasn’t in the movie. At first I thought he was the main guy. But no. But he did make money off of that case.
          Btw: my kids used to call my mother (now deceased) Mimi. So every time I see your name, it reminds me of her. She passed a little over a year ago. I miss her so much.

          • Mimi

            Yes, to the comment about Tom Girardi. The PG&E case became far too large for Ed Masry’s wee little firm to manage, so they engaged co-counsel at the firm Girardi owns. With respect to the Mimi comment, awe, how sweet. I am a Mimi to my grandchildren as well. Not my real name, it is my acquired name, one that I earned when I was a volunteer baby rocker/fear soother at the children’s hospital. My lovely grandchildren actually call me Grandma Mimi. I think it is adorable. In a funny twist, one of my co-grandma’s given name is actually Mimi but she is called Grandma Nona. Life is grand when you’re a grandmom!!

          • Aleggra

            Absolutely, Mimi! I told my kids & they got all teary-eyed. They miss their Mimi 🙁

  • sideof Sour Cream

    Every once in awhile she looks like Drew Barrymore to me. Anybody else see that?

    • chacha1

      she is very pretty when she has her hair drawn back

  • Amy2

    Has anyone ever seen video of how mink are farmed for their fur? I didn’t realize there was still a market for fur~ I guess that was my hopeful thinking.

  • Mrs.K

    Girardi wanted arm candy, Erika wanted money. Win, win for both of them. Nothing wrong with that. Stop judging.

    • JustSayin

      I don’t think that’s the part most people have a problem with, it’s the whole abandoning her 3 year old son thing. You know, those minor details (pun unintended).

    • foxy in the VAULT 💩🐛🍋🍈🚿🔑🛌🏃😩

      So patronizing.

    • Betty

      I doubt if mom leaving her son was a win for the child. But then again, I guess it was a win for her “gayz” as she calls them. So unfulfilling.

      • Sherri Scott

        Exactly and that’s why she has such a wall up

  • Jennymckitty

    Thanks Beach. Wonder if Erika is still wearing that little smirk.

  • Babson_Chick

    Great recap and info. At first I liked her – but now not sure & will wait to see if she’s going to continue to snark about Lisa. She definitely is so proud of landing a wealthy man which doesn’t impress me.

    • EllaFitzbunbun

      HI Babs……..another sleepless night here. sorry I missed you and hope you’re well.

      • Babson_Chick

        Am great thanks – hope all is well with you!!

    • aemish

      Especially considering she’s not allowed to speak unless spoken to!! lol good lawd! “Go to your room!” — that shiz was HiLaRiouS

      Morning, Babson!

      • Babson_Chick

        LOL and I couldn’t handle that. Sorry to miss your comment!! Hi there!!

        • aemish

          No worries! Hey Babsie! (ɔˆ ³(ˆ⌣ˆc)

          • Babson_Chick

            Happy Monday to ya!! Am trying to catch up on the latest news – haven’t been on my puter much lately but don’t think I’ve missed too much – but still looking

  • Suzanne Adey

    I am not a fan of her but even I have to give her credit for knowing her son was better off with his father than her. ‘ll bet we all know someone who should have been raised by their dad than their mom. I don’t count that as abandoning a child.

    • You do have a good point

    • Kellygirl

      I know many sons better off with dad, regardless of how mom is.

    • SusanT

      You dont get credit for dumping your little boy off at three…

  • doggiedaddy

    Love the dichotomy of having a Male strip club (nudge-nudge wink-wink) and a bail bond company.
    The snarky egotism of running a questionable business and thinking your Elliot Ness is too funny for words.
    “I do it for the good of the community. The money has nothing to do with it” excuse these con artists use is priceless.
    #shade

    • Dee

      Her ex runs a porno site, she’s on it

      • SusanT

        I dont doubt it….

  • chacha1

    Erika probably takes her scoldings from Tommy but when they are behind closed doors she is the one whipping and spanking him,
    Erika will do anything to keep that bus full of her male go-fers.
    I also bet she has a good romp with anyone who looks her way when Daddy Warbucks is out of town …… I noticed how she was drooling over that guy teaching the “spin” class and I also noticed her blonde ponytail flying all over the place like “look at me” I bet she hired him for private lessons

    • no-never-ok-maybe

      Lol @ whipping and spanking him.

  • Stevie_Rave_On

    Mmm Erika’s son is a good looking man.

  • Just a jersey girl

    I just hope Erika son is not effected by any of this, he is a very handsome young man. Being a police officer today is really hard especially in cities.

  • ScrappieONE

    There is no way, no how I could ever leave my child at any age to go pursue a career. That child would be right with me

    • Denise

      I see children dumped at daycare everyday so their parents can have new cars, trips and fast food dinners everynight!

      • ItsTurtleTime

        Very different to moving across the country away from them.

      • SusanT

        But they come home to mommy at night and have dinner, spend time with mom and Dad then mommy and daddy tuck them into bed….they dont walk out one day at the childs ripe old age of three and never come back! Thats abandonment pure and simple she didnt want to be a mother after she had him it didnt fit her elite lifestyle , private planes and mansions and slutty videos and sadomasochistic old men with fat wallets who boss her around with no affection for her whatsoever that she threw herself and her phone number at were far more important than her three year old little boy who worshipped the ground she walked to become some talentless stripper wannabe called Erikuh Jayne?? I knew there was something from the very start that really felt wrong to me about her…maybe it was the way she threw around the most disgusting word in the English language “c@nty” or the grabbing, rubbing and ‘patting her nasty ummm…..puss’..the feeling that I had about her was right on the money! What was Bravo thinking putting her on their show? Theyve really reaached a new low. This time….

        • Sherri Scott

          EXACTLY

  • jml27

    Erika’s life reminds me of Ginger in the movie Casino!

    • elaine stenzel

      there is no way those two are on the up and up,father a hustler managing a male strip club and the erika whatever she is doing with the gays,I have no idea…I think those two are living off of sugar daddies money.and I think the son knows about the whole thing,he is not a cop for nothing,trying to cover his mom and dads bull shit with the lawyer.

  • puffypuss

    So Erika is no different than the likes of Draya,Diamond Strawberry,Erica Mena and all the others like them who chose not to be active in the day to day lives of their children as they hoped to capture a wealthy partner. If this were a man(Slade/Brooks) she would be eaten alive in the comments as I have yet to hear a man being defended for this behavior by someone pointing how he didn’t really abandon the kids he just left them with their mother. a
    I also sense if she would have failed in her mission and didn’t hook a grandhusband there would be even less attempts to sugarcoat this bullshit.

    Charming to leave a young child without the presence of his mother so that she could go be a WAITRESS. Too bad there wasn’t a large cosmopolitan city on the east coast with lots of wealthy men and strong ties to the entertainment industry. Oh wait there is and it is called NYC. Not to mention we aren’t talking about some great talent here that the world would have been robbed of if she had decided to co-parent in the same state as her son’s father. She was a pretty woman but was never going to be a top model and her skills were such that eventually her husband had to buy her a career.Imagine what that poor kids nights were like when she first left him. Children that age are VERY attached to their mothers unless of course she was a shitty parent from the start. I’m sure his trauma was assuaged at 3 when he was informed that raising little kids just isn’t for some people, that mommy is immature, and that hey it takes a village!

    How proud she must be that one defense of her behavior is that the trauma of being abandoned by his mother perhaps isn’t as bad as the damage that would have been caused by her influence in his day to day life preventing us from dealing with a male version of Brielle and Ariana. Her son turning out to be a member of the LAPD is something I give her no credit for as every single day people overcome the circumstances of their youth to become functioning members of society. If you don’t raise your own child you don’t get to get praise when they still turn out well. Nor is it a testimony to her decisions that he moved to LA. Children innately desire to connect with even the most horrible parents and that cannot be confused for a healthy mother-child relationship. Look at Kim Richards and how damaging she is to children who still flock around her. Or how Kyle,Kim,and Big Kathy still adore the woman famous for encouraging her children to marry for money and that charming time she hired a man to teach Little Kathy how to perform oral sex in a van outside their house.

    • IrishFury

      Great analysis – spot on in everything you say.

    • Thank you for taking the time to summarize the true story …wrapping herself in cash wasn’t enough to hide the pitiful neglect she had for her poor baby. Yes,of course he missed his mommy. At least it looks like daddy did a good job of helping him develop into a positive roll model. You really hit the nail on the head ..every word puffy.

      • puffypuss

        Thanx:) Its really ridiculous.. SMH

      • Town Drunk

        I’m glad the topic of the abandonment of her her 3 year old baby in NYC is being talked about 😀

  • Wow..finally a glimpse at her well concealed past. Good looking son,but that ex looks like ferret/weasel . I guess,like her,he’s an enigma…wrapped in some poor little animal’s coat but at least he stepped up to parent their son. Rearing a police officer is commendable. That young man must take a lot of guff about his mom. Good reporting all aboutthetea…you dug up the tea that the bossy new hubby buried.

    • Denise

      That is so shallow and superficial! Why would you judge a person for their looks?

  • JustNotCrazyAboutBitches

    What may have been a custody issue and court ordered is misconstrued into a LIFELONG ABANDONMENT charge. Her son lives with her and Tom till this day, so apparently everything is fine in the Girardi household. Man, talk about the price fame. *SMH

    • Kellygirl

      That’s how I see it too. Also, is it abandonment or did mom feel it was best for dad to raise son!?

    • Weeds1

      Where did you find out? Her private life isn’t usually front page news. Very private.

    • Bunnylove67

      Yeah right

  • Chicco Beanz

    My issue with Girardi is that she is condescending, hypocritical and nasty. She talks about people all the time and is super judge mental, but will have an issue if you judge or she feels you judge. She’s full of shit.

    As for her son, and the other women listed in an earlier comment, if they felt their child was better off with the other parent or a family member, that’s their decision to make. Whether or not I agree with what they did with their time away from their child doesn’t matter. The child isn’t neglected if the custody was given to someone more fit. Even more so, all of the women listed regained custody of their children at a later time when they were ready and more stable providers. I totally get that a lot of these women are gold diggers with questionable ethics and morals, but, we only know what we read, see and hear. Who knows what ACTUALLY happens when it comes to their kids?

  • Denise

    If Erika were a man no one would complain. Her ex was a good Dad and he obviously did a great job raising their son. Erika also has street sense. That is nevessary in today’s world. You can tell she loves and respects her husband! She speaks her mind so you know where you stand! Why not applaud her for wanting a career? The negativity against her is all about envy. It takes a better Mother to allow someone to raise your child when you can’t.

    • ItsTurtleTime

      It wasn’t that she ‘couldn’t’ raise him, as if she had some kind of terrible situation. She was chasing fame and fortune so moved away across the country. She has no talent so married money instead. Simples!
      If she were a man the only difference is people would call her a dead-beat dad.

      • Jeff

        The old man(her currrent husband) probably did not want the child.

    • HappyHousewife

      Please she’s no better then a dead beat dad. He was 3 years old and she moved across the country …to be a waitress and left him with the striper King. (Striper King seems to have done well at first glance) the young man moves to L.a in 2014 as a grown man. She had been married for 13 years give or take by then. Why did he never live with them ?

    • porclain

      Sorry she is a hypocrite of the highest order. I find it appalling how she throws out acusations at others that she herself did.

      • Denise

        She’s actually the milder personalty. She’s honest and of course gives her opinion, after all it’s a reality show! The idea of the show is reality entertainment!

        • Tammiethebully

          Lol, she told Yolanda a lie o LV. Lisa didn’t want to talk about Yolanda’s girls but the all to envious Ericka couldn’t wait to start trouble. Then when confronted she lied and said she had no clue. Honest my backside. Then shows her pus to a man even wealthier than her husband who she bows down to. Doesn’t apologize..no..she attacks his wife for talking about it to others first. Hypocrite. She was jealous that her husband seems in awe of Lisa’s class. Now Lisa has a friend so she attacks her. She may be beautiful but skanky as well.

          • Allie L

            Dorit Kemsley’s millionaire husband (PK) filed for bankruptcy!!! Not even close Thomas Giraldi His net worth is $11 million. Erika is worth $5 Million on her own. They have been married for 18 years…we don’t know the circumstances of her relationship with her EX and just because she didn’t live with her son does not mean she abandoned him. Erika seems to be happy with her life. That is why Dorit is jealous !!

          • Tammiethebully

            Dorit isn’t jealous of Ericka and she is also happy. My comments have nothing to do with money or her son. You like her, I don’t.
            Next…..

          • Allie L

            Your facts were wrong that’s all.

    • Bunnylove67

      Applaud her for wanting a career? As though it’s ok to abandon your son to do so? You don’t decide to not me a mom after you have a child. Your child comes first and if you can be a mom first and have a career second that’s fine but abandoning your child should not be an option.

    • Jeff

      So you believe in being a parent only if it is convenient to you?

  • Fran

    Look out Gramps! I think the patapuss and her ex are definitely in cahoots! Live long and prosper!

  • Midnight

    Her husband seems controlling. She almost appears fearful. He definitely calls the shots and yet he permits her to have her provocative career. Very odd relationship. I don’t think there is any love there. It seems like an arrangement like do what I say and do what I want whenever I ask and I will continue to support your career. Odd.

  • Denise

    Have you never known a professional? The man is a powerful and successful attorney. They’ve been happily married for years. Being critical of a parent for moving to another state for a career, you have to be living under a rock! You do what you have to do in today’s economy. Look around you, many children live with Grandparents between divorce and careers. The fact that her husband is older than her is no big deal. Age is a state of mind. She married a man that she respected and loved. How do you know what Erika’s childhood was like. Many women never know the love of a Father. I believe we marry someone who fills the voids in our past. She is a beautiful and wealthy woman so people are going to hate her. That is so unfair! If she were homley, obese, pregnant and poor you would be attacking her for that! Why can’t people just concentrate on their own happiness? Why can’t you go out and pay it forward and help someone who is in need? The bad mouthing on here is judgemental and cruel to Erika, her son, her husband and ex husband. Think about her child being on the streets of Los Angeles protecting the citizens. Why can’t you pray for him to be safe instead of adding all your armchair psychiatry? If Erika and her ex were “bad parents” their son wouldn’t be in the career he has chosen. His Mom is very proud of him!

    • Weeds1

      What career? Gold-digging?

    • Bunnylove67

      Is this Erika disguising as Denise? Because not many woman could justify leaving a child at at this age, or really any age. Having a good dad is so wonderful, but it doesn’t take the place of a mom, I know because my mom abandoned me when I was almost two and I have an amazing dad, but it definitely affected me not having a mom, I desperately needed my mom, but just like Erika, my mom had bigger and better things to do with her time. I think it’s cruel to leave a child at this age, I’m glad it appears he’s doing ok, but no one knows how he feels on the inside.

    • Sherri Scott

      That’s true,but from what she has said she had loving parents that did stuff with her,it almost seems like she was spoiled. I will never understand leaving a son behind,and I am not a hater.

  • A A

    I never liked this woman from day one. Now I know why. I am never wrong about people.