NeNe speaks! The only problem is that I don’t know if the plot has thickened, or if it has become as thin as gruel! Leakes explains her breakdown in her latest blog and I will leave it to you to decide if you believe she has adequately explained her issues. For me, something still rings false:
“I always like to be true to myself and speak from my heart and I hope that you will feel me and that I don’t offend you. My exterior may come off tough to some but my heart is made of pure gold! I have overcome and conquered things that would have broken the average person.”
If her story is true, her life has been difficult, but has it been any worse than the lives of the people she denigrates on the show? I wish she was gracious enough to give credit to the other wives, who have each experienced the sort of life-altering and formative experiences most of us wouldn’t want to have to survive.
That should have been the wives common ground for bonding. Instead, the experiences of the other women have seemingly been discounted as something other than “things that would have broken the average person,” by Ms. Leakes, in my opinion.
“My breakdown didn’t just come out of no where like some would like for you to think! It took courage and strength for me to drop my walls in front of women who had said the most ugliest things about me all season! Women who I feel honestly wanted to hurt me! Women who were 100% against me. Women who has shown me zero support. Women who has shown the utmost hate for me. I need you to understand what it took for me to put myself on display for all to see and how vulnerable I felt in that moment.”
I agree that being vulnerable takes strength and courage. It’s the same strength and courage they have all shown at one point or another. I ask this honestly, has there ever been a season where NeNe didn’t believe the others were out to get her? Doesn’t it also take strength and courage to see the good in others, instead of assuming all others are always acting in bad faith? Cynthia left the door open to reconciling. NeNe closed it. Yet, Cynthia was the first to run to her. Kenya tried to greet her warmly and hug her after they said they were on good terms. NeNe stiff armed her, despite the fact that these two women have never had an argument over anything.
Claudia, who had once been contacted by NeNe to take over hosting duties for an event at which Charles Grant would be featured, Claudia tried to say hello and play nice. NeNe shut her down as “associating with people she doesn’t think highly of or wanted to be associated with” – words to that effect.
Kandi helped Kim Zolciak put out a hit single. I’m not sure how that was an indication of being “100 percent against her,” but they have never been the same since then. Collectively, the women sent her a video shout out saying they wanted peace. She blew them and the video off. Who is out to get her? None of them have treated her as she has treated them during sensitive moments.No eye rolling. No laughing. No side-eying. This saddens me for her.
“Honestly I never wanted to cry or feel vulnerable in front of people who don’t like me! (I’m crying as I write this) I understand that forgiveness is powerful which is why I wanted to let my walls down. I am not an abandoned woman! I am not a victim! I love my mother with every inch of me and I’m sure she wanted more for me than she could offer at the time! I didn’t understand that as a young girl but I understand that as a mother today!”
Now I am confused. Is NeNe suggesting that it was only at that moment that she was able to forgive and that’s why she broke down? What is she forgiving? She said that she was not abandoned, as seemingly alleged on the show, what was that entire reunion breakdown about? If NeNe has understood her mother’s motives along, why talk about her mother as wanting the other children (apparently her words to her husband, Gregg by his account) but not keeping her at home? I don’t get any of this. I am also beginning to wonder more about her sister’s account of their childhood and whether there is more to the story than Leakes has let on (You can read that account here).
“MOVING ON……I reached out to majority of the ladies after the reunion to thank them for their support & kindness that day because they seemed to show support during my breakdown. But I find it hard to believe that some of their intentions were genuine and sincere! Certainly after something so serious some have continued with the nasty negativity in the press and on social media. Which makes it hard for me to trust or have any relationship with them.”
This woman gives with one hand and takes with the other. I think anyone who doubted Kandi and faulted her for not moving during the breakdown now owes her an apology! None of them had to put themselves on the line for more rejection. Kenya has never known a mother’s love and reached out to NeNe, even after NeNe rolled her eyes at her after hearing that Kenya’s mother spoke to her for the first time.
NeNe has accused Dr. Jeff of doing Bravo’s bidding and attacking her. She has accused the other wives of being 100% against her. She has even had conflict with her sisters/cousins with her comments causing the family pain – which played out in social media, several years ago:
“Moving forward for me doesn’t mean having a friendship It just means that I’m past the bullshit & some people need the bullshit to survive on this show. I don’t!”
How is it that she has she managed to stay right in the middle of all of it?
“Cynthia, we had our little chat that day and we have texted since then but again thank you!”
No slap back after the compliment? Progress.
“Claudia, thank you for keeping your word after we spoke.”
“Phaedra and Porsha you guys have been just amazing all season long and you continue to be.”
Figures. Though I am surprised that Porsha’s comments that not having a mother’s love makes you bitter didn’t resonate, more. Is it me or do you think Ms. Leakes intentionally left Kenya Moore off the list? (You know Kenya – the show’s star, as Leakes dubbed her during the pajama game nightmare).