Amber Marchese Bravely Faces New Challenge: Lumpectomy Scheduled for Today

Posted on Apr 20 2015 - 7:11am by Editor

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Amber Marchese confronted many challenges as one of the rookie cast members of the last season of “The Real Housewives of New Jersey.” However, no reality show drama matched the challenge that she faced, when she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2008, at the age of 31.

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Amber bravely fought her way through treatment and back to health, to resume her life’s work, primarily as a devoted mother, and wife to her outspoken husband, Jim Marchese. Jim and Amber celebrated her good health during a touching episode last season, and the emotion filled evening was a testament to a tenacious, victorious fight for life.

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Amber took to her Facebook today, to openly share with her followers that she is facing a new, but familiar feeling struggle. Amber is scheduled for a lumpectomy procedure today (Monday, April 20), after she discovered a lump, while at home.

“Hello beautiful friends and family!

I originally wanted to keep my current situation a private matter until today. Monday morning I am going in for surgery. Truth be told, I found another mass, in the same breast as my first diagnosis, this past Friday before Easter. I found it while relaxing on the couch watching a movie with my husband. We were watching “Wolf of Wall Street” and, might I add, at a really funny part. I lifted my arms over my head, touched the side of my breast (I am not sure what made me do that) and there it was. A small pea sized, somewhat bean shaped, lump. There is a lot of detail in between that one day until now, I will write more about it at another time, but I really wanted to focus in on today.

My last few weeks have been hell, as you can imagine. But, can you really? With this news I traveled to the Bahamas with my beautiful family and tons of close friends, but the only thing on my mind was that lump and my uncertain future. I kept a smile on my face in front of everyone and cried in private (you may have noticed my puffy face in most of the pictures). I am getting surgery today to remove the lump and have it biopsied. My minds rational side keeps repeating that the odds of it being cancerous are very low, it truly is, but I quickly revert back to thoughts of the worst kind…..recalling the first round. As comforting as the statistics should be to me, I still have spent the last couple of weeks in complete anxiety, fear, and stress. I was swept right back into the agony one faces when they could possibly face death. As I usually do in times of stress, I shut most of the world out, focus in on my family, and pray to God, a lot. Then, something happened Sunday afternoon. Something I want to share with all of you. As I sat in Sunday Mass, I felt a sense of overwhelming peace. I was in a heavenly place, free of sin, fear and full faith. My faith in God and my physical presence in Church gave me a sense of peacefulness. It is all going to be fine, regardless what the outcome. I am physically strong and through my spiritual faith, I am mentally strong. I have turned to God and put my trust into Him instead of shunning Him away. I embrace my faith instead of saying “why me”, trust me, that went through my mind more than once in the past several weeks.

The reason for my message is simple in this world there is so much confusion, sadness, and anger; however if we look to our faith He will be by your side, you are never alone. If you have faith, no matter what religion you may follow, you we will have peace. I know it is hard to believe in something that we cannot see, touch, or understand, but you can feel Him in all the beautiful moments that life has to offer. I write this to you to just to share my understanding, my passions and thoughts about this world and the suffering that takes place here. Hell is real, evil is real, it is amongst us all, but human suffering is not evil it is part of the cycle of life and the faith that derives from that suffering is our catalyst to a higher purpose, to a higher a meaning than us all. We become closer to God.

I am in the best physical condition of my life, lifting weights and I sometimes feel like supermom, but today I stand before you all, frightened. I am not ashamed or afraid to admit it, but what I can say to you all is I have peace. God willing, I can put this all behind me and simply be mom again, however in the meantime I will continue to strengthen my faith and show my love to all. I am armed with today’s Sacraments, I was anointment by my Priest, and have my “Catholic bag” ready to go (LOL). I am ready!!! I am ready for it all!!!!
Peace, I leave to you and thanks be to God. God bless.

We are all one,
Amber Marchese”

Amber has been an ongoing and inspiring example for breast cancer survivors, as well as those currently battling this terrible disease.

We here at All About the Tea, send Amber and the Marchese family, our warmest wishes for peace, strength, and the best possible results, as they endure this trial.


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  • MidwestMiddie

    Sending prayers and good wishes to Amber and her family.

  • Chloe

    I’m sorry to read this. My prayers for the best outcome to Amber.

  • cait

    Why such a long wait for the op’ ? I’d be frantic !

    • What do you mean why such a long wait? She found the lump 2 weeks ago…doctors schedule the surgery not her.

      • cait

        I was thinking that you have private healthcare in the US, so more chance to have an input ! Folk here on private, call a lot of the shots.

        • Oh I see….no, it’s different here. Surgery two weeks after finding the lump is pretty fast here.

          • cait

            Must have been two weeks of hell, poor girl !

          • I can’t imagine what’s she’s going through knowing it’s in the same breast as she had cancer in the 1st time.

  • This really saddens me deeply. Sending prayers, healing thoughts and lots of love to Amber and family. Godspeed.♥︎

    • RonnieIsBack

      So am I. GH

  • DSS

    Sad for anyone. But why not keep it private??? She never has come across as the helpful to others type. Prevention and education is not who she seems.
    Why the sudden attention from AATT to her for a couple days? Vac pics?
    No one wants her to get THE cancer again but she will only still be on the show due to her husband if she is asked back.
    I don’t get it…

    • She’s always been an advocate for Cancer prevention, this is not new. IMO it be egregious for a public figure like Amber to keep “THE Cancer” private especially since she’s always been so vocal about it.

      • DSS

        Hey Seuss! I wasnt aware she was so vocal about it before she was on RHONJ. What did she do? What platforms were avail? I never heard of her before the show so how do we know before she was on TV she was an advocate for prevention?
        Again I feel bad for her BUT I am having trouble finding anything with her name on it before the show offered her the gig.

        • Good morning DSS…sorry I got pulled away for a bit. I recall on the show she mentioned a particular Cancer awareness charity she worked with. I don’t remember the name. Someone else here may know. Also, we saw her chop her hair off for “Locks of Love” on the show.

          • DSS

            Again I love your memory LOL Ok I admit I “tune out” when she is on after the initial car ride with Melissa and the pot stirring about the twins. So I am sure I have missed things which is why I asked 🙂
            I dont like the “person” on that show but I CERTAINLY wish her health and happiness with her family! and life!!

            Hope your day rocks Seusseroo!!!

          • Have a good one too, DSS.

        • Bad Barbie

          You never heard of her because you were not checking for her. Doesn’t mean she wasn’t out there helping others. She has done a lot of charity work in NJ and it was also on the show when she helped Dina with Lady Bug.

          • DSS

            But I did try and check and didnt find anything before she was on housewives. if you know of something feel free to share the link. and the Dina thing? That to me, speaks for itself since it is for TV………….

          • Bad Barbie

            Project Lady Bug is a real organization. If you look up the person that hosted the party at her lavish home, Amber has done events with them in the past.

  • DLister

    Although I hope she gets the ABSOLUTE F*CK off my TV , I wish her full healing. She is young, healthy and resilient.

  • itsjustme

    My thoughts and prayers go out to Amber and her family.

  • WaWaWaWHAT!

    Her facebook post made me cry…but at the end, her words were so powerful I know she will be just fine!!! Much love, prayers and support to the Marchese Family!!! XO!!

  • WaWaWaWHAT!

    I’m just so sad by this…

    My Aunt recently found lumps under her arm AGAIN, she had breast cancer in 2010, and found a lump January this year…she is currently having chemo & radiation again…the lump under her arm disappeared and now she has small masses throughout in her lungs…[I am crying typing this] in short, Why does breast cancer seem to be effect woman more rapidly now…it’s a disease I absolutely HATE!!!!!

    ♥ to Amber, sending her strength today and for the days to come…

    • Bad Barbie

      (((HUGS)))) to you Wawa. Prayers for your aunt.

      • WaWaWaWHAT!

        Thanks luv!

    • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

      Sorry to hear that WWWW. Sending big hugs, thoughts. prayers & healing vibes across the miles to your Auntie. All the best to you & your family Hon.

    • WaWa***BIG HUGS***sending lots of love your way, darling! ❣

  • RonnieIsBack

    She is an amazing woman. May God Bless her.

  • Just a jersey girl

    I am praying for her. She is a very kind person and wonderful mother. Jim as controversial as he is I like.

  • Birdie

    She is an amazing, brave woman. She is facing down an emotional monster, and doing it with grace and generosity. God reveals his power through our greatest weaknesses…praying for Amber, and hoping to hear good news soon.

  • Susan Thorne Zavagli

    wish her the best

  • Bad Barbie

    Good luck amber!

  • BeachSpin

    Praying for Amber and her family…inspiring post from a brave woman.

  • WestCoastFeed

    Wishing the best of possible outcomes for Amber. But I am puzzled by cancer recurring in her reconstructed breast. What are the chances of that happening? I think we have some nurses who post here who can help me understand this.
    May God’s grace be with Amber.

    • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

      The simplest way I can put it West is that breast cancer doesn’t just affect breast tissue. After my sister had her mastectomy, her breast cancer metastasized to other areas of her body. Even though the cancer cells were in her lymph nodes, lungs & spine, they were still breast cancer cells.
      Does that help at all?

      • WestCoastFeed

        Yes, I’m just wondering what the percentages really are for having a complete mastectomy, I guess. How much safer is a woman having it done?

        • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

          Gee that I really don’t know. I do know that there are different types of recurrences, say just the original site of the lump/tumor vs. when the cancer actually metastasizes. & of course the treatment methods also factor into the possibility of a recurrence. & of course the different types of recurrences are treated differently.

          According to one article I’ve read approximately 10% to 15% of patients with stage I/II invasive breast cancer will develop a clinically isolated local recurrence.
          I found this table on this site.

          Maybe it will help.

          • WestCoastFeed

            Thanks, Tigerlily. Is breast-conserving surgery another way of saying lumpectomy?
            I feel so sorry for Amber. She went for the most radical treatment and had a double mastectomy for the extra protection and the damn stuff still came back.

          • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

            You’re welcome West, I checked & breast-conserving surgery is defined as an operation to remove the breast cancer but not the breast itself. Types of breast-conserving surgery include lumpectomy (removal of the lump), quadrantectomy (removal of one quarter, or quadrant, of the breast), and segmental mastectomy (removal of the cancer as well as some of the breast tissue around the tumor and the lining over the chest muscles below the tumor). Also called breast-sparing surgery.

            It breaks my heart. I can’t imagine the terror she is going through.
            Let’s hope that it’s not cancerous & if it is that she was so pro-active that the mildest of treatments will be needed.

          • WestCoastFeed

            That’s right. We need to wait for the biopsy. They are a lot faster at doing those than they used to be.

          • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

            Yup. Fingers crossed. Hoping she will be okay.

      • Marsbars09

        I understand.

        • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

          It’s weird because I never realized it until it was explained to me. I always thought it was cancer of the spine, like the breast cancer had caused spinal cancer to occur. Not that the breast cancer cells had spread to the spine, ya know? Guess I never really thought about it too much in that way. You hear the C-word & your brain tends to shut off.

    • jane

      Hi WCF. . .as Amber herself tweeted all it takes is one cell to break off and travel to another part of the body. My MIL, who succumbed to this disease, had metastasized breast cancer in her brain. Amber references an article on Health Central titled “Circulating Tumor Cells May Predict Recurrence Risk”. I don’t know if I can post the link here but I’m sure if you put it in your search engine you will find it. I just finished reading it and found it to be very educational and informative. Breast cancer is on the rise and I just saw a report on the news tonight that the National Cancer Institute predicts by the year 2030, breast cancer cases will jump 50% over what they are today. The reasoning is that baby boomers are getting older and more likely at a higher risk. There has also been rising rates of a type of breast cancer that is called estrogen receptor positive breast cancer. This is what my MIL had and was among the first groups of women treated with tamoxifen which bought her 10 years.
      A standout statement by Amber in her Facebook message. . .”We are all one.” Indeed we are.

      • WestCoastFeed

        Thanks. Oh, I know very well how cancer spreads. What was getting to me was the fact that she acted so aggressively to treat the original occurrence. I was wondering just how much edge that gave her over any recurrence anywhere.

        • jane

          I am not an expert on that, for sure. On a more emotional level, I do know, as I am sure you do too, all women react differently when faced with breast cancer or the possiblity of it. Look at some of the women who have tested positive for BRCA1/2 taking the step of radical mastectomy versus women who have Stage 2 breast cancer and opt for a lumpectomy. Or going full out like Amber has versus taking a homeopathic and/or natural alternative approach. Whatever those choices may be, it certainly is a personal one which I know we all respect.

  • ♥♥♥ Tigerlily ·.¸¸.·*¨·.·.¸¸.

    So sorry too hear this news. Hoping & wishing the best for Amber & her family. Best of luck to you Amber. Hang in there girl.

  • Pandora403

    Wishing a happy outcome for Amber although I have a bad feeling this lump isn’t benign. If it is cancer again then please let her beat this.

  • RealitytvJunkie

    Healing prayers to Amber and family. Wishing you a positive result.

  • Marsbars09

    Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear that. Amber has been through so much due to her ordeal.
    This especially touches home as my co-worker’s husband is terminally ill. We fear the end is soon.

  • jane

    Amber has taken alot of heat for her stance and “storyline” about her journey dealing with this dreaded horrific disease. Seeing those pictures again of her just reminds us all just how close one can come to becoming a victim. But Amber, in my opinion, is a warrior; a fighter. And now its spectre rears its ugly head yet again to her. Unfortunately, survivors, even those who get past the 5 year mark, continue to live with that uncertainty. Kudos to her and her honest portrayal of what it is like to be a breast cancer survivor and my thoughts and prayers are for her with the hope the biopsy comes up “negative”. And I will say, with all sincerity, that while her husband may be unlikeable in so many ways, he is one helluva support system for his wife; he clearly adores and loves her. She needs that and there is no doubt, he is 1000% there for her. Prayers for him and her children too that this turns out to be a false alarm.

  • WestCoastFeed

    Amber has said that the biopsy results will be in Friday to Monday.

  • Cindy

    All it takes is ONE Cell to break free…. I hope all goes well for her, But didn’t she get a Masectomy? I’m thinking no….I don’t understand….SMH
    Peace and Love and Positive thoughts

  • TartLemon

    Last season I was very put off by her assertions as though she is or ever has been the only one who’d walked in her shoes. I don’t wish her or anyone pain and suffering. MANY have the struggle and MANY multitudes more have lost.