Kandi Burruss Regrets Sharing Her Marriage Problems On Reality TV

Posted on Feb 19 2015 - 2:54pm by Dani-K

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Is Kandi Burruss, star of “Real Housewives of Atlanta,” having regrets about spilling practically every last drop of tea when it comes to her marriage with Todd? Let’s face it, Kandi’s an open book. She’s spilled many bedroom secrets on “Kandi Coated Nights.” She started an adult toy line and has no problems explaining in detail how the products work. Additionally, she’s shared her many struggles between her mother and Todd.

During the last episodes of RHOA, we see the frustration mounting between Kandi and Todd. When “A Mother’s Love” is inevitably cancelled, Todd tries to help (somewhat) by suggesting that Kandi and her team didn’t do their research. When Kandi brings this up to her crew, the jokes on Todd and his underperforming sperm. Getting away to LA seemed like a good idea to Kandi at the time. 

“I had a great time filming! I was very appreciative to Todd for making that happen, and the opportunity came at the perfect time. I was feeling really down after the play got cancelled, so the movie was what I needed to bring up my spirits.”

Or was it? Kandi was visibly disappointed when Todd packed more shoes than a woman for their LA trip and announced that he would be staying a few extra days to hang with his boys. In typical Kandi style, she swept her frustration under the rug, however, upon her return to Atlanta, she spilled that irritation onto Carmen that counseling was in order or they might be visiting an attorney. (Please not Phaedra!)

And the reason? Because they only had sex once that week. I can’t help laughing at this part because these two want to have a baby. Talk about a decrease in sex drive! But I digress. Here’s what Kandi had to say.

“As soon as Todd and I got married he had to leave for LA to start production on his show. We went from being together every day to going weeks without seeing each other. It took some time to adjust.” Kandi continued, “Things were tense for a short period of time, but we’re great now. I do regret talking about it on TV. I’m a very open person, but I’m learning that it’s not always a great idea to be an open book when it comes to your marriage.”

A lot of people who film reality shows say that after time you forget about the cameras. But of all of the women on RHOA, Kandi is the most level-headed and we thought she would have figured this out when so many fans turned against Mama Joyce and her buttinsky methods. Guess not.

Is it time for Kandi to put her family first and step away from RHOA? Or should she discuss with that therapist how to be less open concerning her marriage to Todd? Is there a happy medium where Kandi can keep it real and not come off as fake like some of the other RH ladies? Tell us what you think.

 

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  • CNN

    Kandi strikes me as slow. I thought it was common sense that having too many people in your relationship can be detrimental to your unity. When you agree to a reality show you also agree to give up all privacy and discretion. Kandi knows this.

    • Dani-K

      We said!

  • Yolie

    I think Kandi was desperate to be married. It’s really sad when a person is a celebrity with money and cannot be sure if someone is into you or into your money and celebrity.

    • Susan Thorne Zavagli

      desperate …yes

  • Marsbars09

    That’s the smartest thing Kandi has said in a long time. I bet she’s tired of getting pounded on social media about how she & her evil mother treats Todd

  • chacha1

    Kandi is a sleeze with her nasty attitude and letting her mother treat Todd and his daughter like they are in the way, and the way she treated Todd’s mother could be why he is moving on, I do not see them lasting too long

    • Dani-K

      So sad. If I were Kandi, I’d move to LA.

  • nn

    It was incredibly disrespectful to her marriage for her to discuss her issues with Todd with Carmen, a woman who has had beef with Todd in the past and who is an employee as well as friend. I think the issue is less about talking about her life on the show. It really is about discussing her most private affairs with inappropriate people. She doesn’t seem to have the right filter. She tells The Old Lady Gang, Sharon said she was going to kick Joyce’s ass. She tells Carmen about potential marital problems. She tells the girls she and Todd don’t have enough sex. Seriously! Everyone does not need to know everything. Ever!

    • Well said!

      • Wendy Owen

        It’s little wonder the staff feels it’s okay to embarrass Todd anytime, anyhow, anywhere. How much of that will a man take?

  • Kandi allows her mom and staff to demean her husband on national TV…that’s the main problem.

    • RonnieIsBack

      Yup

  • Susan Thorne Zavagli

    there is definitely tension in this relationship and it has escalated since they got married…..I think Kandi loves Todd more than he loves her…she was pushing for marriage and now a baby ….I don’t think he is ready for a baby or marriage ….Kandi is passive aggressive and runs from conflict …not a good communicator…..she has been single too long …already she has a plan to pull the plug if she can’t her way with Todd…..Todd is not a pushover and all her money doesn’t matter to him……he signed the prenup so if they do divorce it will be a clean deal……Kandi you are not marriage material….your husband should come first not your mother ……now maybe this drama is for the show ..if so..so be it

    • Marsbars09

      Great commentary Susan.

    • mamaline47

      I believe you hit the nail on the head. She doesn’t ask him advice about producing movies it theatrical entertainment, she goes to everbody else. Todd is good at what he does. He should have hit and run.

      Also what man wants to be married to a woman whose always talking sex toys. If you have that type of business get a qualified manager and an accountant or two that will check and balance each other to make sure your not being cheated, then you have more time for hubby.

      Then she always has a lot of company at her house, her cousins, her many friends. Check yourself kandi.

  • Lucy94

    These two really would have been better off as business partners. They just seem to be mis matched as husband and wife. And as long as Mama Joyce is around I don’t see this union lasting. Kandi has really failed Todd IMO.

  • RonnieIsBack

    All this means is Todd got in dat azz….

    • Hell yeah!!!!

    • DLister

      OMG, the gross visual — like fat, sweaty rhinos doing the mating thing on a sweltering day.

      • RonnieIsBack

        LOL not literally..that is an urban saying that means “he either cursed her out or told her off, etc.” It is a verbal azz kicking..LOL

        • DLister

          Ha! Shows you how caucasian suburban I am! 🙂

  • She Stinks!

    So this is what she regrets? Not all the sex toys, the crazy mama, her inability to speak English? Sit down Kandi, then quit the show.

  • Trippinhhard

    Girl bye you been off the hoof, Todd is sick of you, you momma and your nice nasty daughter..
    I really think gate mouth Kandi thinks it’s funny the crap that her momma says.. Joyce ain’t funny, she demented and controlling.. Todd it’s time you start calling the shots, if not GTHO.
    Kandi act like she SLOW learning anything, that don’t involve her feeling or Joyce feelings.. Well I’m happy Todd is speaking up and hopefully he won’t be tied to your family for life. I see why it took so long to get a man.. You talk to damn much

    • Marsbars09

      Preach Samra! I co-sign on your comment.

      • Trippinhhard

        Kandi is really childish and passive aggressive, I detest her crying, although most ppl crying is ugly, Kandi just crys too much for me.. Mars it’s really is kinda funny to me that they having sexual problems, isn’t she a little lite sex expert. Lmfao

        • Marsbars09

          It sounds like Todd just isn’t into Kanda anymore. 🙂

  • LovetoLoveLoversareforLoving

    I give their marriage a year tops. I don’t blame Todd one bit if he walks away from the marriage, With his mother’s recent passing I’m sure the idea that life is finite and we don’t know how much time left we have is on his mind.

    • Dani-K

      I think you’re right about their marriage not making it very long. Too bad. I really like him. Kandi is a fool. And to buy her mom a house right down the street?! What was she thinking?!

  • DLister

    Uh, Kandi? Yeah, too late and tough shit. Choices: you can always decide to let go of reality TV.

  • NiHi

    You mean Ms. Kandi Coated Nights is having problems in the boudoir … lol!!! Kandi needs to get off TV. Her voice and constant grinning is annoying. Can’t stand her mother and Riley seems a little bratty. If Todd had a thimble full of sense he’d grab his daughter and R-U-N!!

    • Norrth

      Great point! Kandi thinks her business is about selling the act of sex, instead of understanding all of the emotional ties that come along with it. She doesn’t seem to be about intimacy at all. It’s all about getting it done and not worrying about her husband’s feelings outside of the bedroom.

      • NiHi

        Yeah that sugar in the va-jay jay trick she talked about in season 1 or 2 must not be working anymore. She’s one of those women dumb enough to think her kitty is the only one that purrs.

    • Quest2011

      Kandi is like the “man” in a relationship. Sex sex sex. Doesn’t care about Todds emotions and controls the money. No man can take that.

    • Babson_Chick

      I agree with you!! Enough already!!

  • Gabby

    This marriage will not last at all. Dealing with Kandi, her rude mother and daughter is enough to send a couple straight to divorce court. Not to mention, his mother passed away and Mama Joyce and Kandi NEVER tried to make that right. I bet he has feelings of resentment as we speak (or type lol).

    • NiHi

      Yeah, whenever the subject of Mama Joyce and Ms. Sharon come up Kandi gets that stupid grin on her face with “I can’t do nothing with my mama she is who she is.” There’s no way now that Todd’s mother has passed his dislike for Joyce hasn’t increased and his resentment for Kandi the Klown hasn’t too.

  • Norrth

    After watching how she lets her friends and family talk to and about Todd, what aired on TV should be the last of her concerns.

    • fred

      they should have a prenup between kandi and her mom

  • Quest2011

    She needs to sit down and watch the episodes so she can see how she and her family treat Todd

    • mytwocents

      That’s exactly what I eas thinking. Rewarding momma J with a mansion was like rubbing salt in the wound. The reward was MORE than putting her stamp of approval on Joyce’s behavior; more so than any lip service stating disapproval.

      • Dani-K

        Especially when Momma Joyce practically destroyed Kandi’s old house.

      • chacha1

        And she also flaunts her money to him ….. her daughter is also nasty like her momma …. Todd’s mother was treated badly and probably worse then we know then she died ….. too late Kandi …. you and your mother allowed that women to be miserable before she died

    • Karma

      AMEN

  • WaWaWaWHAT!

    I see the Mama Joyce come out in Kandi more and more each episode…

    Todd is damned if he does or damned if he doesn’t…Kandi KNEW he was a producer, so what do producers do…travel, if he wasn’t working then Mama J would continue to call him an opportunist…

    Maybe he doesn’t care to rush right home since Kandi moved her evil, ever so bitching mother RIGHT down the street from them…

    Sorry to say but if they need counselling now…I suspect a separation followed by a divorce in the future…

    • Karma

      WaWaWhat

      you took the words right outta my mouth thank god I read the posts before posting coz I would’ve posted a A very similar in fact practically identical post.

      I totally agree with EVERYTHING you posted BRAVO girl

    • Susan Thorne Zavagli

      you are right ….apples don’t fall far from the tree….she is becoming her mother

  • cait

    Do you think AJ would have put up with the old bat’s shit, and allowed her & Viley to treat his children so badly ?

    • cait

      Comments please ! Just wondering if Todd is too soft !

      • disqus_9tPaISDDrW

        No Kandi is too weak

    • mamaline47

      Hell no. A.J and kandi might be fighting because he would have cursed her out and she couldn’t visiy.

  • cait

    My cousin’s hubby was a lazy guy, and even though she worked 4 nights a week at the hospital, 17 miles away, he was always calling her up, in the daytime, to help him with his job as a local school janitor ! Despite this she treated him like God’s gift to women, so I asked her why she did this. Her reply surprised me ! “I treat him like a King and he treats me like a Queen !” I watched, carefully, for the rest of my stay, and saw the amount of love and respect they had for each other. She accepted his shortcomings, but had an amazing marriage ! Makes you think !

  • Babson_Chick

    At one time Kandi was my fav but I’m over it now with the Mama J crap, spoiled daughter, her treatment of Todd, sex games/toys has gotten old, poor business sense and then there’s her dumbass laughter about everything.

  • mamaline47

    Run Todd Run.

  • Chloe

    I predict a divorce on the horizon.

  • Nana Pance

    Kandi is ruining her marriage. She continues to put her mother ahead of her husband. Mama Joyce is a grown woman, she had her failed marriage or failed baby daddy relationship (whatever it is ) my point is she had her chance to be happy. Why is she so adamant to take her daughters happiness away? And Kandi is a fool for feeding in to it, and continuing to buy her things without her husbands consent(at least discuss it with the man). She makes him feel irrelevant, yes she obviously makes more money, but make your man feel like a man for heavens sake. Kandi is doing everything she can to keep her man away, no wonder he wants alone time. Damn, who wouldn’t? He obviously loves Kandi, it shows, it’s obvious, but Kandi is making it hard for him. She is not sticking by her man. It’s ok to tell your mom, no I cant do this for you anymore. She is a grown woman, she can take care of herself. Let your daughter have a life Mama Joyce. You “worked your butt off to take care of her”, yes that’s what mothers do. But you did it so she could have a good/happy life, not so that she can be your personal bank.

    • Susan Thorne Zavagli

      Kandi spoils her daughter and her mother ……Riley is a brat and Mama Joyce is a bitch……can you imagine how home life is for Todd and his daughter

  • Susan Thorne Zavagli

    I am enjoying the show less and less as each episode airs….all of these personalities have been on a downward spiral from where they began….now they have celebrity status…not one of them is humble they are above humility …..I assume we are seeing their real personalities and it is not nice or pleasant …….they are all fighting their way to stardom and relevance…..the show for me is tired

  • miracles3337

    I thought it was sad to see these newlyweds have problems so early in the marriage. I hope the problems get worked out, because it jumped off from a bad place. No one wants problems with their in-laws. Last year, it was hard to watch a bride get torn down that way before their wedding. Kandi has to set healthy boundaries with her staff and family alike. Marriage counseling is always good. But in the first year seems a little soon. The first year of marriage is the hardest. If they take baby steps, they will be ok.

  • disqus_9tPaISDDrW

    Kandi failed to stand up to her mother when Mama Joyce became mean spirited and dishonest in her efforts to make trouble in Kandi’s relationship with Todd. Todd was the perfect gentleman he did not deserve that. Kandi’s weakness became a threat to her marriage and caused many viewers to loose respect for her and her mother. Now that Todd’s mother has died with the Mama Joyce issues unresolved, this can not be fixed. Shame on Mama Joyce for disrespecting Todd, his parents, her daughter and herself…….and in addition being a horrible role model for her granddaughter……..she can not apologize enough because there was too much damage. There is no question the marriage is in trouble. Todd needs a stronger woman who truely values a good man. Kandi is smart in many areas but she must learn to stand up to all people who cause her and her family harm.