Drea Kelly On Transgender Son, Pending Divorce & Life After The Show

Posted on Jul 4 2014 - 1:51pm by Editor

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Season three of “Hollywood Exes” was a bumpy filled road for Drea Kelly McKeeThis was the season she planned her wedding to her new love, Brian McKee. The season finale ended with the couple tying the knot in an elaborate wedding ceremony. Now, a mere two months after the wedding, the newlyweds have broken up and Drea has filed for divorce. The couple could not survive the proverbial “Reality TV” marriage curse.

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After watching the finale episode and seeing Drea’s joy of finding “unconditional love,” you can’t help but feel compassion for her. She endures a lot of scrutiny because of her first marriage to controversial R&B singer, R.Kelly.

In addition to relationship woes, Drea is a mother of three children. Recently, her 13-year-old daughter, Jaya, came out as transgender and now goes by the name JayDrea did a recent interview and candidly opens up about her personal life:

Drea-Kelly-Jay-Kelly-1404244836Drea Kelly and her son Jay

 

The finale of Hollywood Exes this season is centered around your wedding but you’ve since announced that you are getting divorced. Are you planning on watching or will that be too hard?

Drea:
Oh gosh, yes! You know what, I’m proud. And I know that seems odd to say like, girl what? But I am proud because I really do think that I am a living example for women. Life goes on, honey. You cannot crawl up under a rock and go “I’m done with life.” Because guess what, it’s still gonna happen. You’re still gonna have to face it.

 

What is the exact state of your relationship with Brian right now? Is there any chance of a reconciliation?

Drea:
I’m just waiting for my divorce to be final. I’m not the type of girl – I think because I’ve been through so much with my first husband – that I just have no room for BS. Some women, it might take you three, four, five times for you to be cheated on for you to get it. When you become 40, there are just certain things you don’t have room for in your life. It’s nothing against Brian. What we had was real but it’s time to move on. If it’s meant to be, if we are meant to come back together at a later date, only God knows. I can only answer for today and where I am right now.

 

It was discovered that Brian was having an affair and women were coming forward to you via Twitter. You managed to stay so positive and I just kept reading tweets where you were like, “Girl Power.” How did you keep such a optimistic outlook, at least publicly?

Drea:
[Laughs] For some reason, we have been brainwashed and taught that you attack the other woman. If something happens it’s “definitely the woman’s fault” and “women can’t get along” and all we do is fight. Everything that was happening on social media – was it hurtful? Yes. Was it embarrassing? Most definitely. But is it life? Yes. Just because you’re a celebrity doesn’t mean that life doesn’t happen. I knew that I had a choice to make [to stay positive] and it was an easy one to make.

 

This past June your 14-year-old son Jay came out as a transgender boy on his Ask.fm page. How is your family adjusting to that? Are there any misconceptions you’d like to clear up?

Drea:
All I can say about Jay is he makes it so easy to be a proud mom. For parents, we need to realize, [our kids] have their own journey. Parents get it wrong when they don’t support their children. They have to go out and fight every day and face this world. The first battle should not be at home. I think that a lot of children in the LGBT community don’t succeed because the one thing they need the most is foundation. I just tell Jay all the time, baby you won the war. You’re gonna have a lot of battles but you won the war. Mama accepts and loves you for who you are. Your family does. My dad is a retired military naval officer and all he said was, “I’m gonna mess up sometimes and [use the feminine pronoun] ‘she’ but I’m gonna eventually get the ‘he’ thing. Just give grandpa some time. I’m gonna get it dude.” That was it.

It’s pretty remarkable for a 14-year-old to be so open publicly. I mean that takes some courage.

Drea:
It’s like Jay; you don’t understand that you’re changing people’s lives just by being courageous. The kid is so courageous. She has…and see, there I go [using the wrong pronoun]. It’s a learning experience. It really is. It’s something we smile about. When I make that mistake I’m like, “Girl, you got a son, honey, get it together. Get it right.” [Laughs]

Being R.Kelly and your child, there has been a lot of attention surrounding Jay coming out as trans. Was that surprising to your family?

Drea:
You know it took a minute for that to click in my head. Then I have to stop and come back and say, in the urban community this is like a first. [For my family] this isn’t this shocking thing. I need [people], especially in the black community, to stop burying their heads in the sand. Let’s quit playing that game that you just chose to be gay or trans. What we choose every day is what we wear. We need to stop worrying about people’s gender and sexuality and think about the choices we’re making with our youth, period. That’s what we need to focus on in my community

Drea, how are you going to make me cry at my office? Thank you so much for sharing your story with us today!

Drea:
[Laughs]! I am so sorry! But you know what? That’s just my truth! Like that’s my baby! And when you’re a mom, a mother’s love is like that of God. You can’t do anything to earn it, you never do anything to lose it and it’s never gonna change. I don’t care what you do! My kid is here, healthy, loving, kind, God-fearing. Like, what is there not to celebrate! Are you kidding me?

 

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  • SAMRA1116

    I’m wondering if I’m reading this correctly?? Drea doesn’t sound like she letting the grass grow under her feet.. I’m happy for her and she’s correct, we just need to support and love our children. They are not mini us anymore, they are not hiding NOTHING.. We all know someone who was on the DL growing up, but anyone with eyes could see, and we spoke behind closed doors. I’m really impressed with her interview: IMO

  • twifan2

    Hated that she had to ‘learn’ the hard way about Brian, but all in all I think it made her stronger, more resilient! Good for her. The best for her & her family! 🙂

  • itsjustme

    Good for Drea for continuing to love her son. As a mother of a gay daughter I totally understand the love she is speaking of. I applaud her son for being so strong and confident to come out at such an early age. I wish my daughter had with me. Her twin sister knew, but for whatever reason she was afraid to tell me until she was 19 yrs old.
    I will NEVER understand parents who turn their back on their children who just happen to be gay. It’s not like their kids chose to be gay. Any more than the parents chose to be straight.
    Thank you Drea for being there and being an awesome parent to Jay!