Motivational Mondays: Who CARES What They Say, You ARE Good Enough!

Posted on Jun 30 2014 - 10:51am by Letrice

 

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Beyoncé has a new song, “Pretty Hurts,” and the song talks about how important it is to know who you are and to be okay with that. She emphasizes that it’s not the actual body but the SOUL that needs surgery.

It’s sad that we have to hear songs as such but I’m glad that there is something to encourage women AND men to love and accept who they are. Nowadays the media bombards us with pictures of what THEY think is beautiful and we believe them!

There was a time when I hated my looks. Did you hear me? I said HATED! I would look in the mirror and point out every single flaw that I had. I compared myself to people in magazines and to celebrities on a daily basis until I came to the conclusion that I wasn’t good enough.

I would attempt diet after diet! I took diet pills. I went to weight loss clinics. I was continually looking for the NEXT BIG THING that would make me look like the images I saw. Now mind you, I was only a size 10! That’s right, a 10! But that wasn’t considered beautiful by society. That was almost obese according to Vogue. So I did whatever it took to get me to look like what was considered beautiful!

See to me beauty was a size. Beauty was a flat stomach. Beauty was a tiny waist. Beauty was no back fat. Beauty was NOT me! This continued on for years. My husband would affirm and reaffirm me that I was beautiful as I was but I didn’t believe him. I remained that way until July 2009. That was the year I got sick and tired of being sick and tired.

So I made a DECISION.

 

DECIDED that I could either continue to demean, belittle and degrade myself OR I could learn to LOVE myself… FLAWS and ALL and after a long battle MENTALLY, I decided on the latter.

 

I DECIDED that society WOULD NOT dictate how I would look at myself!

 

DECIDED that learning to love MYSELF was more important to my well-being!

I DECIDED that I WAS good enough just as I was!    

 

I DECIDED that I would write the ending to my story!

 

From that day on, I began to affirm myself! I began to look at my body differently and instead of tearing it down, I started building my MIND up.

 

Side Note: (Change your mind, change your life)

 

I started focusing on the parts of me that I DID like and from there I discovered that I LOVED my full lips! They are beautiful to me (and my husband).

 

I discovered that I have beautiful legs! Owwwww!!

 

I discovered that these boobs that I thought were TOO much, yea those… honey people pay TOP dollar for these okay???

I discovered that the opinions of others about ME were obsolete and after many years of hating who I was, I served society and MYSELF a divorce degree! The marriage was over and I wanted nothing from the relationship! I was leaving this marriage with my nothing except my sanity and my dignity, everything else could stay!

I said ALL of that to say this: LOVE yourself! Flaws and ALL!!! If you are beating yourself up about your looks, I encourage you to make today your LAST day doing that!Fall in love with YOU! Embrace EVERY SINGLE THING about yourself! Divorce the OLD and Marry the NEW! You’re WORTH IT! Make a decision TODAY that you ARE good enough, because you ARE!

 

P.S. If you need a divorce decree, I can let you borrow mine. Instantaneous divorce and you won’t have to spend money on a lawyer! #Sharing is Caring

Letrice

 

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Former Bravoholic and opinionated big mouth who loves God, her family,Hollywood, fashion, the color Pink and reality TV….especially Bravo shows. #Don’tJudgeMe

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  • twifan2

    VERY inspiring words of wisdom, Letrice! 🙂
    Thank you!

    • JustLetrice

      Glad I could share my story and thank you for reading!!

  • Great job Letrice!!! Thank you for these inspiring words! No truer words.

    • JustLetrice

      Thanks again. You have ALWAYS been a huge supporter!

  • Birdie11

    YAY Letrice! Good for you!!

    • JustLetrice

      Thanks!

  • SpringBreeze14

    This was a beautiful and very inspirational blog post!!!! The media is such a powerful tool that it controls millions of people worldwide. I was reading an article on PBS the other day about how other countries perceive America and from my understanding, not in a good light!

    Unfortunately we live in a country where if you don’t favor anything light, skinny and blonde, you’re considered unattractive. Change what you can change and what you can’t just leave it up to the one above.

    • JustLetrice

      Thanks so much and so very true. That’s why we have shows like Botched. Many have tried drastic measures to measure up with what society thinks.

      • SAMRA1116

        Also we forget on the other side of the coin—my race is running to get their lips and butt injected to the max. Everyone has so self loath
        I decided @12 it’s the body God gave me—it’s all I have.

        • JustLetrice

          I mean it has become an epidemic! It needs to stop!

    • SAMRA1116

      You are correct—-fake blonde and you’re automatically beautiful, when most look like road kill. I’m from a blonde family, but I play down everything.
      The word beautiful or attractive is used for my race only, I’m not starting no shit, but I watch the news, etc. TV controls the minds of the masses and now they are shoveling
      one agenda on the news. SMH

    • Well said Sring!

  • SAMRA1116

    Letrice its good you finally changed your way of thinking.
    Self hate is a SOB when you are actually beautiful
    Models do the same thing—find a flaw and then it becomes a scab
    Work what you have and make the best of it. Everyone is looking for perfection and that doesn’t exist.. IMO

    • JustLetrice

      So true. Thanks for your feedback.

    • Birdie11

      Think of the bondage that staying a tall size 4 must be…staying healthy doesn’t even matter. I think a model’s life looks awful.

      • SAMRA1116

        It’s hard to be rail thin and healthy.
        I haven’t seen a size 4 since middle school. LOL

        • Birdie11

          I fluctuate between a 6 and 8. I would have to starve, smoke, and take speed while continuously running to get to a 4.

          • SAMRA1116

            10-12 for me. I would look like a skeleton if I was a 4.
            That’s way too thin for my body and I never fit the mold.

  • Birdie11

    I used to hate being built like a giraffe (a male one! lol) as a teen…was always trying to gain weight and look shorter. Now I love it…I often help short women get things off the top shelves at the grocery store…how COOL is that! So much of this awareness comes with maturity and adult perspective…this message is so crucial to teen girls out there…and it’s up to us to model it to them. We also need to shift thinking from beauty to health…being strong and healthy is what makes us FEEL beautiful!!

  • SAMRA1116

    Letrice you should really think about posting this blog everywhere you can
    The young ladies need to know—everyone can’t look the same, but love who you are
    be as healthy as possible. Start loving those flaws.