Book Review: “Lies of a Real Housewife” Chapters 1 & 2 Recap & Questions

Posted on Jun 28 2014 - 4:58pm by Norrth Cafe

Angela Stanton

Chapters 1 and 2 – Recap and Questions

I will say this, folks, if Angela Stanton is lying, as has been alleged, she is GOOD.  Her story is as plausible as any story I’ve heard read, but let me remind you to be cautious, two words…James Frey. There are a lot of plausible stories out there that turn out not to be true.

I know neither Angela Stanton, nor Phaedra Parks. I can only tell you how I view this story, as a reader – and as a Real Housewives of Atlanta viewer.  I must also tell you, now,  that I will not give too many details away.  From what I’ve read so far, fact or fiction (which it is  has yet to be proven in court), Stanton’s book tells a powerful tale.  To give you too many details would rob you of the pleasure of reading it for yourself.

Stanton opens her story with a powerful recounting of being sexually assaulted as a five year old child, by a family member. It is a scene that can only be described as horrifying, monstrous, and her rapist as prolific, by her account. I cannot put into words how awful this event was, and if I had the words, I would not use them. Too young to know that she was not his only victim, she lived with the shame and guilt that comes along with being assaulted – most especially by someone you once loved and trusted.  Her family’s inability (and/or unwillingness)  to protect her set the stage for a path of destruction that made her later life seem like a logical, albeit tragic, conclusion.

Her relationship with her mother is one I struggle to understand. Her account of her mother is one of a loving mother who was sometimes misguided, afraid, and often alone – except when she wasn’t, but more on that.  I grew up in a family where the phrase, “I would kill a rock for you” was routinely used – and I knew was never thrown about lightly. To have a mother who was all too human but at times gripped by fear and insecurity is something I can’t relate to.  Yet, it paints a picture that helps me understand what created the young girl who was, as self-described, hard on the outside – soft and vulnerable on the inside.

Her earlier tragedy is followed up by watching her mother destroyed by a violent relationship with a “stepfather.” If only half of his actions are true as remembered, he is the poster boy for stiff laws regarding stalking and domestic violence. If they are all true? It’s time to revisit stiffer prison sentences. It is because of him, according to Stanton, that the family loses everything, leaving it all behind and moving away from Buffalo, NY.  It’s his resurgence in the lives of the mother and daughter, who were in the process of rebuilding, that leads to the loss of another home, a child, and any opportunity Stanton may have had to move forward. All of this occurs by the time she is 18 years old.  It is “stepdad” Curtis, who is the impetus for the move south, first to Greensboro, North Carolina, and then to the ATL.

Enter attorney Phaedra Parks

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It is still within the year she has given up custody of her child.  They meet because of Stanton’s relationship with artist Terrence Cook (also known as “Drama”)

 

Phaedra was his attorney – suing another rapper for money owed to him.  Stanton identifies herself as one of his jump offs. They form an unlikely friendship – a practicing attorney and the deeply impoverished then 19 year old who spent more time than any child should – living on the streets.

It’s clear to me (via Stanton’s words at least) that she is enamored with Phaedra.  She describes Parks as a high powered attorney wearing designer heels – a woman who drove her black Benz on days she wasn’t driving her white Jag. When Drama ends up in prison for armed robbery, the friendship continues. While Stanton is grateful for the friendship, it is puzzling to her (and me too, folks). She describes the group she’s fallen into (or more like sought out) by saying, “All of us were illegal, drug dealers, drug users, prostitutes, and hustlers.”… and there is Phaedra in the middle of that crowd, by Stanton’s account. Stanton claims she is showered by Parks with extravagant gifts and a lavish lifestyle, all thanks to her close friend.

Despite the Jag and Benz, Phaedra’s home is described as average. We learn that Phaedra, according to Stanton, loves to put her sex life on display (via toys around the bedroom) and that Stanton remembers that almost all talks with Parks become talks about sex – who, when, where, how, etc. There are references to the men Parks was allegedly involved with, including an unnamed NFL player who treated her poorly (please say it was NOT Chuck Smith!), a DJ —  Stanton alleges she helped Parks stalk — one Parks didn’t like but as an entertainment attorney, dated to help her clients. Stanton even suspects that Parks is intimate with Drama at about the same time she is involved with him. WHOA!  That is some allegation. Stanton even shares some of the attorney-client information about other clients she claims Parks shared with her. Humdinger!

We conclude with the mention of Apollo, that he will become Parks’ future husband and Stanton’s partner in crime. If you think you know this story from reading this recap?  I can assure you, you don’t. I’d have to reprint the book in its entirety to lay the juicy details on you.  It’s still for sale at Amazon. I would recommend that you read it and join us, here, for the book discussion.

Phaedra Parks

Before I go rest, to recover from this story, here are some comments and questions explaining what I’ve taken from Stanton’s story, so far:

  1. Unless she has more dirt than a quarry and she’s hiding it from us, Stanton is laying it all bare. She has not painted herself as a sweet naïve girl who spent Sunday through Friday in church praying while leaving room for the devil to get ahold of her on Saturday when her guard was down.

I get the impression that she had a hard life, has given a lot of people a lot of hell, sought out all the wrong people to bring into her life, and didn’t know how to deal with her pain.  As a result, she thought she knew it all, until she ran into a crowd who recognized that she was playing amateur hour and they were the real players.

  1. She thought she was holding her own.  She was nowhere close to that.  On the heels of giving up her first born, coming into contact with her vile rapist again and his other victims (her family members), and meeting a crowd who was a lot faster moving than she could have imagined, she finally found a place where she thought she belonged.
  1. She befriended someone who was the epitome of everything she thought she might have been, under other circumstances. What would she have become if not for the tragic rape and the equally tragic life with a stepfather who could have spit her rapist out as his own, in some ways.
  1. I’m curious about the “friendship” between the two women. By the time I finished working toward my degrees and entered the professional work world, I didn’t know any 19 year olds. What would lead a practicing attorney to befriend a 19 year old – most especially if she was only a “jump off” by her own description?  Was it big sister – little sister or was there a surrogate mother-daughter relationship taking place. From Stanton’s description, I get the feeling that Stanton sees it as a grooming relationship – with Parks giving her a taste of the good life to help her become hungry for more.  Time will tell.

Read more about the Stanton – Parks saga here at AllAboutTheTea.  Check out the next installment on Tuesday, July 1st

 

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  • Tre’s Twits aren’t Angelic

    Okay, you’ve whet my appetite. I think I need to add it to my reading list.

    • Norrth

      You definitely want to read it before the date of the deposition. It’s a real eye opener about the kinds of questions Parks might be asked and will have to go on record answering. Sweet mercy.

    • Hey TTaA! It’s an intriguing read.

  • Marsbars09

    Great story, Norrth! You make the book sound shocking and mind blowing! If what Angela states is true, it sounds like Fake was on the lookout for young, vulnerable, uneducated youth to groom into her world of crime. It sounds like Apollo would fit the description of who Fake would take into her fold. Apollo also hails from a disadvantaged background.
    I hope the book becomes a success and finally exposes Fake for the lowlife, evil witch she really is. Southern belle my ass!

    • Norrth

      DRAT! I wrote a reply to you and thought I sent it. Short form – I thought of the word “grooming” as well. It was creepy to read. We’re not even in the meat of the story, yet, and it is just something – no exaggeration. I think it will blow the minds of all who read it. For me, there are glimpses of the things she writes about but I have to remind myself that this is her account. It will be interesting to see how the deposition goes, because I would hate to be asked any question related to anything in this book. WHOA!

  • Marsbars09

    I just shake my head in disbelief at the picture of Fake, Apollo, and baby Ayden. I bet Fake had this planned all along: marry her alleged criminal accomplice straight out of prison, get pregnant, manufacture a persona as a southern belle so she can land a spot on RHOA, and live happily ever after. Little did she know the skeletons in her closet would eventually come screaming out. Her life has got to be pure hell now.

  • WestCoastFeed

    All I can say is, “Oh, my.” I almost hope it isn’t true.

    • Norrth

      Exactly. We know this kind of thing happens, but it’s hard to witness someone who might be guilty of behaving that way. Phaedra is on television every week via RHOA. When I was reading this book, I remembered Phaedra telling Cynthia whoever told her that she was using raunchy language when discussing whether Cyn would attend Ayden’s party lied to her. Remember, she doesn’t use that kind of language and then Cynthia played the recording. It was like two different sort of people. Then there was the restaurant scene with Apollo. The onscreen Phaedra was so different from the woman swearing at him in the car – probably not realizing the mic was still hot.

      • WestCoastFeed

        Let us know if Angela comments on the Southern Belle act, or has any remarks on Phaedra’s speech, please. I’d like to know if the act was something Phaedra just devised for RHOA or if she had been using it earlier.

        • Norrth

          Will do. It feels like an act, to me, but we’ll see.

      • Zoe D.

        You’re dead on…I too saw two different women. One for TV…the other was real. This lead me to believe she is NOT who we think she is…she’s hiding something. Her true self.

  • Thank Norrth for an excellent recap of chapters 1 & 2.

    After learning about Angela Stanton’s childhood, my animosity for Phaedra grew stronger. Ms “Southern Belle” is a predator that preys on the abused, vulnerable and damaged. A sick, calculated and evil person would intentionally set out to use and hurt people already broken. She manipulated Angela like a pimp would his prostitute with psychology. Phaedra is pure evil.

    Why would a successful lawyer chose a 19-year whose clearly on a different path in life as a friend? Why would an educated lawyer marry a criminal who NEVER left the life of crime behind him? It’s glaringly obvious why….she’s a criminal herself. The details in Angela’s book are too specific to be false. And Jessica Voker is another victim of Phaedra who shares a similar background to Angela. Jessica was also manipulated by Phaedra in the same way. They all can’t be lying.

    • Marsbars09

      I co-sign on your comment, Doc.
      I wanted to refer to Fake as a predator as well, but I thought it was too strong a term. I didn’t realize you seriously hated Fake.
      One of the comments I posted is very similar to yours. I suspect Fake and Apollo’s originally meeting was based on criminal activity. I don’t think there was anything sweet, spontaneous or innocent about how they met like they’ve been telling people.
      What I really want to know now is who is the REAL Phaedra Parks. Did she always possess a cold, sociopath personality or did she change somewhere in her young adulthood?
      I think there’s a sinister reason she no longer regularly practices law. Hopefully the deposition will expose that.

      • Morning Marsie……After I made my comment, I read yours and yes we’re thinking alike. I don’t HATE Phaedra or anyone else for that matter. I’m simply describing my opinion of her character. I like WCF would rather it not be true because it’s so ugly and sinister.

        • Marsbars09

          Morning Doc. I apologize for my phrasing. When you used the word animosity I thought hate.
          I believe Fake is a dishonest, manipulating sociopath who is capable of doing what is described in the excerpt. Like you, WCF, and probably a lot of other posters, it’s hard to wrap my head around how ugly and sinister Fake’s operation was. I mean, to use the weak and disadvantaged for your own gain and then to discard them while they’re at their lowest point? If Fake is guilty they need to lock her up and throw away the key.

          • No worries! And I agree with all of this….right on!

  • SAMRA1116

    Thank you Norrth—it’s very hard for women to heal from demons of the past, because they think they are doing find. Hard life looking for approval, from people that have found out all your weakness. FHA knows how to prey on the lesser person.
    I been said FHA is a freak n she loves both M/F strippers.

  • One observation I’ve made is a lot of TreHuggers are condemning Phaedra as guilty ALTHOUGH she has not been indicted or pled guilty. I’m not defending Phaedra but it’s quite IRONIC some TreHuggers love to admonish folks for talking about a CONVICTED FELON (Teresa Giudice) because she has kids but are very quick to label Phaedra as the “mastermind” when she also has kids. Hypocritical much? LMAO!

    AGAIN I am NOT defending Phaedra. My personal opinion is she’s guilty. I’m just pointing out the hypocrisy that goes on with many.

    • Marsbars09

      Hi Doc! I didn’t know TreHuggers were bashing Fake? I would think their primary concern would be on ole girl.

      • Right…they need to worry about the Forehead….her judgement day is coming quick!

        • Marsbars09

          The Forehead. LOL! Yes Doc, Doomsday is forging ahead for Tre.

    • Norrth

      It’s almost too comical for words. The woman entered a GUILTY plea to the crimes she committed and they still won’t accept it? I just can’t, with Trehuggers, I really can’t. They could have at least patted her on the back for taking responsibility, even if she was forced to do so. I could see them saying that they believe Parks should do the same, but condemning her and protecting the Pruno Princess is silly.

      • Chile…I just spit out my water at Pruno Princess! Bwahahaha!!!!!!

    • RonnieIsBack

      All day!!!

  • Kimmera

    I just read this and had to download the book. I haven’t been following RHOA very closely the past few seasons, but I have always had my suspicions about Phaedra. Ever since I saw her going to court with the guy on the drug charges and she would only take cash for her services. Also, her association with people like Ridickulous made me SMH. Why is a so-called ‘Southern belle’ whose mother is an evangelist hanging out with people like this?

    I also question why she wanted to go to school to become a mortician…I would think that most practicing attorneys would make more than a Funeral Director. I wonder if she thought that at some point she would be disbarred due to her shenanigans and needed something to fall back on? Anyway…can’t wait to read the book! Thanks for the review!

    • RonnieIsBack

      Right or they go into either being a mediator or a sport agent (hella cash there)…she knows her license is on shaky ground..

  • Zoe D.

    Hello everyone.

    Wow…this is good stuff! I for one am glad that Phaedra is going to go down in some way or another. Enough of the lies…and fake lifestyle. She is nothing like what she portrays on television. I too think Phaedra went to mortuary school because she needed something to fall back on if she was disbarred. Oooor…she had another scam ready for this profession. Something is wrong with this whole Scenario…I smell rat!!!

    • RonnieIsBack

      that is exactly why she went…

    • Hi Zoe! How are ya? I couldn’t agree more and that rat you’re smelling is Apollo & Phae!

  • RonnieIsBack

    ooooh wee great recap…I believe Ms. Stanton…seriously what does she have to lose by telling the truth? Shady Fhae…

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  • pasteeler

    Phaedra sounds like the devil himself.

    A over-sexed deviant who seeks their victims who cannot be considered innocent. I’m sure she does this on purpose, because she thinks NO one will believe them if the they tried to expose her. Angela Staton is very brave to reveal the real Phaedra to the world.